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[chin311]

Originally posted by: Electric Amish
I see 3 choices:

1) leave

2) pay them rent and have them treat you like a tenant

3) STFU

amish

damn, id take #2 in a heartbeat, but i bet if i paid them rent, i'd be treated the same.

also, bout the pizza job. i dont see how they having any say in regard to my jobs.

 

[cressida]

is that all?
My cousin has to work almost full time and go to college at the same time. She lives with her parents and her parents argue everyday, her dad was caught on the phone many times talking to another women and saying stuff like "I love you" to another women. Her dad yells at her everyday, telling her she needs to start paying the bills of the house. He also calls her a whore and degrades her and all she does is just work and study hard to get into nursing school. All her dad cares about now is going back to some country to see this women he always talks on the phone with.

Btw, she is 21.

 

[chin311]

Originally posted by: jumpr

Originally posted by: chin311
1. wont allow computer in room, but in the room right next to mine, and theres nothing in that room except my computer?? ---dumb
Okay, that's sort of dumb.
2. try and enforce some 12 am bedtime, (ie, TV must be off, off the phone, blah blah etc)
It's good for you to go to bed early. Besides, when I lived at home I went to bed a heck of a lot earlier than midnight.
3. are all over my @$$ about everything i do, who i talk to, etc etc.
Uh, they're your parents...they're just looking out for you.
4. trying to tell me where I can work, etc. (because i was going to deliver pizza on the side for a little extra money)
Delivering pizzas can be very dangerous work. A lot more people get killed delivering pizzas than say, working at Wal-Mart.

so, my options are as follows:

1. talk to them about it, which i doubt will do ANY good.
2. move to NY with my dad (i live in FL)
3. try and find a roommate/cheap apartment, i can afford this, it'd just be cutting it closer than i'd like. don't know of any possible roommates, all my friends are either married or living at home for certain reasons.

If I were you, I'd move out. Why would you move to NY with your dad if you hate the way your parents run your life? The solution to fixing the problems with your parents is making it so that they don't have anything to do with your daily life. The easy way to do that is move out. Then you can deliver pizzas all you want and earn all that $$.

sorry, i guess i was misunderstood, i live w/ my mom and stepdad right now, my real father lives in NY, he's a totally different person about things.

 

[Mister T]

move out dude...
start working and stop whining

 

[iamme]

maybe you should goto NY and live w/ your dad.

 

[chin311]

Originally posted by: Mister T
move out dude...
start working and stop whining

planning on it, more than likely to NY w/ my real dad.

and BTW, i have been working. trying to have 2 jobs, but they are being @$$es about the delivery job.

got about 1300$ saved up, gonna move to NY and try and find work ASAP.

only have 2 real bills. car insurance ($150) cell phone ($50)

pretty sure i can make $300 a month anywhere to cover my expenses.

 

[Mister T]

Originally posted by: chin311

Originally posted by: Mister T
move out dude...
start working and stop whining

planning on it, more than likely to NY w/ my real dad.

and BTW, i have been working. trying to have 2 jobs, but they are being @$$es about the delivery job.

got about 1300$ saved up, gonna move to NY and try and find work ASAP.

only have 2 real bills. car insurance ($150) cell phone ($50)

pretty sure i can make $300 a month anywhere to cover my expenses.

As an FYI - cab drivers in NYC make between 125-150 a day in cash money.... you could be making over 600 a week if you sucked it up and worked 60 hours a week

 

[Ausm]

Originally posted by: MacGaven
Do you live with your parents? Then STFU, it's their rules.

I agree....


Ausm

 

[chin311]

Originally posted by: Mister T

Originally posted by: chin311

Originally posted by: Mister T
move out dude...
start working and stop whining

planning on it, more than likely to NY w/ my real dad.

and BTW, i have been working. trying to have 2 jobs, but they are being @$$es about the delivery job.

got about 1300$ saved up, gonna move to NY and try and find work ASAP.

only have 2 real bills. car insurance ($150) cell phone ($50)

pretty sure i can make $300 a month anywhere to cover my expenses.

As an FYI - cab drivers in NYC make between 125-150 a day in cash money.... you could be making over 600 a week if you sucked it up and worked 60 hours a week

i mentioned earlier, this isnt NYC, around Syracuse area. more upstate. i dont know how the jobs are there :\

 

[Brutuskend]

MOVE OUT

 

[Ausm]

I moved out when I was 15...sure it was hard but I made it....


Ausm

 

[edmicman]

damn a lot of you guys are hardasses. cripe, give the kid a break. you'd think 90% of you guys left home in 5th grade and grew up working in the steel mills or whatnot. pssssh. parents can be unfair regardless of your age. it doesn't make it right just because they're the "parents"

 

[blakeatwork]

Do you pay rent?? NO?? the shut the hell up and quit whining...

all these ignorant little spermbanks bitching and monaing about how their parents won't "stop being parents because I'm 18!!"

Get over it... move out...

 

[MainFramed]

Originally posted by: rudeguy
I dont mean to sound mean, but you are living under their roof, so live by their rules, move out, or deal with it

Exaclty dude, and honestly...i wouldn't complain about living with your parents. Im personally going to live with my parents as long as i can, i dont have to pay bills, my app. or any of that... (My parents rules arent as strict as yours either though... )

 

[blakeatwork]

Originally posted by: kami
Typical ATOT ultra-conservative response:
It's their house, they can do whatever the f*ck they want. Go get a job and contribute to society!

My response:
Your parents sound very overprotective or controlling (not sure which). Yes you are living in their home, but they should still treat you with more respect. You only solution is to move out probably.

no, most people on here are just sick of whiny little suckholes who think that the world is to be hadned to them on a silver platter... If he has a problem with the rules, then he can try and discuss it with them, instead of asking for 'advice' from AT.... it's almost as bad as girl threads or people looking for medical/legal advice..

 

[sygyzy]

I haven't read the entire thread but my problem is that in the last 10 years everyone has been advocating being laxed and being your kid's buddy. You are 18, you still have plenty of time to learn and grown. As long as your parents aren't doing anything illlegal or uncommon (does not seem like they are), I think you should suck it up and deal with it. You never know if you'd turn out good or bad later in life based on how your parents treated you, but I would bet you'll end up with a bit of an edge.

 

[Gulzakar]

ok, the computer rule is stange...

as far as everything else, your 18 and at home...they are still not quite realizing your 18 and are only getting older. Give it time or move out. Hell, if its a free ride, I say stick with it.

 

[Yax]

Originally posted by: chin311

Originally posted by: blackdogdeek
would your current parents pay for a 4 year school for you? or could you afford it for yourself? if so, i'd recommend that over a 2 year school unless you plan to transfer after the 2nd year. the job market is bad enough right now that not having a 4 year degree would be a major extra hindrance imo. and if you go to a 4 year school you can find one that's far enough from your current home that you'd have to live there and that should alleviate some of the distaste for your current living conditions.

until then you have to deal with their rules. no matter how much they suck.

they arent paying for any college/school expenses, if i want it, its up to me. also, my car. i paid completely for it, as i do w/ my insurance, its all in MY name, nothign in theirs.

also, another crazy thing. i've been talking to this girl, and they have tried to tell us that we "cant" talk anymore, so we just bs'd them and told them that we dont, blah blah. and now they are trying to get MY cell phone bills, to "check", that almost sent me over the edge.

Dude, what are you taking advice from these conservative old timers here for. They'll just tell you that your parents are right and you're wrong. Don't listen to them. Parents should love their kids and help them. The kid's success will be bragged about to all their friends. Paying for college yourself sucks. I had to do it. The worst thing that can happen is if your parents make enough money that you don't qualify for financial Aid like govt loans or grants. Then you'll really be screwed.

Get a job and move out, its their home and if they want to make those rules let them, just don't live with it. Move in with a friend or something, maybe if your friend still lives with his parents, just offer to room with him and pay his parents a small monthly rent. There are many ways to make it work.

 

[KC5AV]

The general thought seems to be there house, their rules. Sorry to deal you this little dose of reality.

 

[imported_Papi]

Do you do you share of work around the house?

My advise would be to move out. You an adult now anyways...

 

[amnesiac]

As far as conduct in the house goes, I'm going to have to join the "their house; their rules" bandwagon, but the fact that they pry into YOUR personal affairs (i.e. relationship, phone bill) seems excessive. Don't even think about trying to get them to stop or change because it won't happen. Your only choice is to move out and not look back.

 

[Soybomb]

Sounds like you're a bum to me. You're 18 and just sitting around taking a class here and there at a tech school and debating if you should deliver pizzas. Do you have any goals or ambition? If so now would be the time to start preparing for that. You either need to be in college or working full time somewhere. Instead it sounds like you're just sitting at home.

 

[spaceman]

get out.
get an apartment.
do the dew.

 

[Mill]

Originally posted by: Vic

Originally posted by: Dedpuhl
...are your parents Baptist or Pentecostal?

Dude, check your God hatred at the door, ok?

Chin, the best you can do is try to discuss these rules with your parents and see if they will work with you in some aspects. Expect to compromise and keep your emotions down. Behave like an adult and you can hope to be treated like an adult. Don't and you won't. If you really want freedom though, you're eventually going to have to move out, it's just the way the world works. Just for the record, I don't agree with all their rules though. I delivered pizzas when I was your age and still remember it as one of the funnest jobs I ever had (even if the pay sucked).

That is pretty weak to be considered "God hating." I believe in God and thought that was pretty dead on. There much worse anti-God/Christian rhetoric spewed. That didn't even deserve a second glance.

 

[ElFenix]

why would you want a computer in your room?