Originally posted by: altonb1
i had a friend that I stopped talking to about 8-9 years ago. My wife was 9 months pregnant and a bunch of guys went out drinking. We left one club and went to an after-hours club. About 3am, i was hammered and wanted to leave. Iasked my buddy for a ride since he was going to leave, anyway, and he refused to to take me to my car because I "shouldn't be driving." Fine...we offered to have another friend go, too, and then 1 friend would drive my car home with me and the other would follow so they would both get home without me driving. He refused because that was about 5 miles out of his (the opposite direction--total 10 mile detour)
I don't think I've talked to him since and I don't regret it. who needs friends like that?
I would like to hear his side of the story. From what you said, he seems like a prick for not driving a little out of his way to get you and your car home safely.
Having said that I've seen people who are very selfish and just assume others will go out of their way to help them. These same selfish people will begrugingly (if at all) provide help in return.
Looking at the situation, you may have been selfish driving to a club, drinking too much and then expecting him to go out of his way to get you and your car home safely. If this is something you tended to do to your friend over and over, maybe he'd had enough and was putting his foot down. In this case, he was justified in saying no.
From what I have learned, friends will go out of their way to make their friend's lives easier. So one of three cases exists:
1) He didn't consider you to be a true friend.
2) He did consider you to be a true friend, but is just very selfish and self-centered.
3) Even though he did consider you a true friend, he felt he was justified in saying no because of some other dynamics or history in the relationship.