trust, and raising your kids well.
Your kids will turn our screwed up like up me if you try to micromanage them into something they're not. For me, I am still compelled by guilt to hold the door open for the people behind me because my mother focused on performance instead of simply ensuring I understood what love meant and that she loved me more than she loved her peace of mind that I wasn't doing something I shouldn't like being a kid busy playing instead of being a whipped pansy who lets other people walk on him if he doesn't perform up to their expectations. This is a problem I am trying to overcome at work.
People generally try to justify this paranoid tracking of their family by saying that they are trying to protect them but it usually reveals a much deeper character flaw in the person doing the tracking than anything going on in the trackee.
Not to mention they can't begin making their own decisions if you don't let them make their own mistakes.
If you raised them right, kids will pick up responsibility and their own motivation to do the right things very quickly when the real-world consequences start hitting.*
If you didn't, then by the time they're of age to be going places themselves, it's already too late and this is likely just going to delay the inevitable betrayal.
There's so many kids screwed up these days because their parents are infesting themselves in the child's life.
There are also many kids that have been sent to public school and have picked up the worst filth kids these days have to offer because their parents weren't involved in their upbringing, are surprised the child is turning out poorly, and turn to band-aid fixes like this as a remedy.
Take my post with a grain of salt. Obviously I feel the need to compensate and make sure these parenting mistakes aren't made again. I don't have a balanced perspective, and I don't have kids of my own, I just know what being watched like a hawk by your parents will do to some kids [depends on the kid, another kid might have handled the pressure fine].
It takes wisdom to raise children, not tracking software. I would encourage you to spend the next several months meditating in your spare time about what's going on in your family so that you can discern the best course of action that will solve the core issues, not alleviate the symptoms until they moved out after which they self destruct. But if you haven't already been thinking this way all along, then congratulate yourself, because you are doing your part to make sure tomorrow's world is worse-off than today's. But who cares, right? You'll be dead by the time they're old enough to be in charge wreaking havoc somewhere. As long as you had fun, that's all that matters. Now, if we can just keep this attitude up for a couple generations, we'll be just as corrupt as Mexico is now, and none the wiser.
*this is a gross generationalization () and might not actually be true. Watch me eat my words as I make every effort to raise my kids right only to have them turn out to be demons or something... but seeing as the world was once, at a time, a decent place, and those places [still exist, rural areas seem to be fine best I can tell] had generally better parents and generally better kids, doing your best has got to be better than doing nothing.