Dating a younger guy.

[fumbduck]

You have to drive him everywhere? whats with that? what about paying for stuff, who does that?

Personally I don't think it will work out just because you posted here. If you didn't have a problem with the age it wouldn't have even phased you to post here, but its obvious theres somethin there, and it will always be.

Ask your closest friends what they think, their insight may be a little bit more helpful.

 

[geckojohn]

You should go to Citywalk together... that a pretty fun place to hang out if you're underage. Just go to Gladstones and grab some beers together or Tony Romas (yummm)!

 

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: fumbduck
You have to drive him everywhere? whats with that? what about paying for stuff, who does that?

Personally I don't think it will work out just because you posted here. If you didn't have a problem with the age it wouldn't have even phased you to post here, but its obvious theres somethin there, and it will always be.

Ask your closest friends what they think, their insight may be a little bit more helpful.

Well, he doesn't have a car... his roommate does, but he doesn't. *sigh* I haven't dated a guy with his own car in awhile now... but I guess I don't mind, because he only lives about 10 minutes away from me.

As for paying, we usually split... although I bought him Thai food for lunch yesterday, because a) he'd never tried it before, and b) I accidentally stood him up earlier that day (slept in, whoops).

My closest friends seem to think it'll only be a fling, but we'll see.

 

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: geckojohn
You should go to Citywalk together... that a pretty fun place to hang out if you're underage. Just go to Gladstones and grab some beers together or Tony Romas (yummm)!

That's a good idea... although there are some 21+ clubs I've been wanting to check out there. I'll see if he wants to check that out tonight, thanks geckojohn!

 

[nativesunshine]

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Eug
Reminds of that Kids in the Hall skit.

Blue-haired woman with a walker hobbles by a dapper young man.

Young man: Oh, nice to see you again. Sorry about that hip...

Blue-haired woman: Don't worry, it was worth it!

Sorry, couldn't resist. But yeah, I'll echo the others here. 4 years isn't a big deal.

LOL... gah... here's hoping I NEVER get to that point!

Just finished reading through the thread (yay for high-speed Internet acccess again!), and I just want to thank everyone for their positivity and open-mindedness. We spent most of the day together yesterday... he tried out for an improv show and was assigned to the college team, so he'll be performing every Thursday evening in Westwood. Maybe we should arrange some sort of ATOT meetup there one Thursday.

He's so sweet and attentive... just a tad silly/immature (i.e. he and his roommate apparently become superheros when they drink... gak... ), but I can deal. He's a bright guy, and I really enjoy spending time with him because he makes me laugh (and is fun to kiss :lips: ).

Just one thing... last night (after our SECOND date), he asked me if I wanted to be his girlfriend... I don't know what it is about guys that makes them want to jump into relationships right away, but... he was so endearing, I figured I'd give it a shot. So today, I officially have an 18-year-old boyfriend at UCLA. Feels weird saying/typing that, but kinda good at the same time. If I take off work tomorrow (we aren't granted the day off here), we'll go to Disneyland.

i thought you said he was 19....

 

[fumbduck]

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: fumbduck
You have to drive him everywhere? whats with that? what about paying for stuff, who does that?

Personally I don't think it will work out just because you posted here. If you didn't have a problem with the age it wouldn't have even phased you to post here, but its obvious theres somethin there, and it will always be.

Ask your closest friends what they think, their insight may be a little bit more helpful.

Well, he doesn't have a car... his roommate does, but he doesn't. *sigh* I haven't dated a guy with his own car in awhile now... but I guess I don't mind, because he only lives about 10 minutes away from me.

As for paying, we usually split... although I bought him Thai food for lunch yesterday, because a) he'd never tried it before, and b) I accidentally stood him up earlier that day (slept in, whoops).

My closest friends seem to think it'll only be a fling, but we'll see.

I agree with them. Milk it for all its worth.

 

[fumbduck]

Originally posted by: nativesunshine

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Eug
Reminds of that Kids in the Hall skit.

Blue-haired woman with a walker hobbles by a dapper young man.

Young man: Oh, nice to see you again. Sorry about that hip...

Blue-haired woman: Don't worry, it was worth it!

Sorry, couldn't resist. But yeah, I'll echo the others here. 4 years isn't a big deal.

LOL... gah... here's hoping I NEVER get to that point!

Just finished reading through the thread (yay for high-speed Internet acccess again!), and I just want to thank everyone for their positivity and open-mindedness. We spent most of the day together yesterday... he tried out for an improv show and was assigned to the college team, so he'll be performing every Thursday evening in Westwood. Maybe we should arrange some sort of ATOT meetup there one Thursday.

He's so sweet and attentive... just a tad silly/immature (i.e. he and his roommate apparently become superheros when they drink... gak... ), but I can deal. He's a bright guy, and I really enjoy spending time with him because he makes me laugh (and is fun to kiss :lips: ).

Just one thing... last night (after our SECOND date), he asked me if I wanted to be his girlfriend... I don't know what it is about guys that makes them want to jump into relationships right away, but... he was so endearing, I figured I'd give it a shot. So today, I officially have an 18-year-old boyfriend at UCLA. Feels weird saying/typing that, but kinda good at the same time. If I take off work tomorrow (we aren't granted the day off here), we'll go to Disneyland.

i thought you said he was 19....

Ya. He is a liar!

Next week he is going to tell you he is only 17. Have you ID'd him yet?

 

[Miramonti]

Originally posted by: fumbduck

Originally posted by: nativesunshine

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Eug Reminds of that Kids in the Hall skit. Blue-haired woman with a walker hobbles by a dapper young man. Young man: Oh, nice to see you again. Sorry about that hip... Blue-haired woman: Don't worry, it was worth it! Sorry, couldn't resist. But yeah, I'll echo the others here. 4 years isn't a big deal.

LOL... gah... here's hoping I NEVER get to that point! Just finished reading through the thread (yay for high-speed Internet acccess again!), and I just want to thank everyone for their positivity and open-mindedness. We spent most of the day together yesterday... he tried out for an improv show and was assigned to the college team, so he'll be performing every Thursday evening in Westwood. Maybe we should arrange some sort of ATOT meetup there one Thursday. He's so sweet and attentive... just a tad silly/immature (i.e. he and his roommate apparently become superheros when they drink... gak... ), but I can deal. He's a bright guy, and I really enjoy spending time with him because he makes me laugh (and is fun to kiss :lips: ). Just one thing... last night (after our SECOND date), he asked me if I wanted to be his girlfriend... I don't know what it is about guys that makes them want to jump into relationships right away, but... he was so endearing, I figured I'd give it a shot. So today, I officially have an 18-year-old boyfriend at UCLA. Feels weird saying/typing that, but kinda good at the same time. If I take off work tomorrow (we aren't granted the day off here), we'll go to Disneyland.

i thought you said he was 19....

Ya. He is a liar! Next week he is going to tell you he is only 17. Have you ID'd him yet?

Wish him happy birthday for me.

Sixteen years old is always special.

 

[MaxDepth]

Sounds like winter candy to me.

[Anecdotal]I dated a 30 yr old woman while I was 20 (and in college). We both worked in an architecture firm. She liked the relationship because she got to relive the parts of college that she didn't experience when she went to school. She went to my frat parties and watched me play rugby on the weekends. I got an experienced woman who knew what she wanted sexually and was much more comfortable with her body. I learned so much from her and the girls I've been with after her have benefited (one wanted to meet her to personally thank her). We both liked seeing the college girls get bent out of shape when she'd come to a party.

we ended the relationship after she got a raise and accepted a position out of town. When we had our last date, she pretty much spelled it out that she had only intended the relationship to go on for maybe another year or two. She didn't want to have kids and she really wanted to have someone who wasn't in the same profession. As for me, I really like the things she taught me and I realized that she truly was "a friend with benefits."
[/anecdotal]


True, while the ages are closer together, you still are of legal drinking age while he is no where near. It gets tougher when you go to an event, dinner, or party where they would card (and you look like you need to be carded, too). Being a poor college student in LA must suck as well. Hopefully, no one's ego will get bent by you having the age advantage.



An oldie:
What do guys and linoleum have in common?
Lay 'em right the first time and you can walk all over them for the next 20 years.

 

[bleeb]

Hit it, then quit it. Or let him become a friend with benefits.

 

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: MaxDepth
Sounds like winter candy to me.

[Anecdotal]I dated a 30 yr old woman while I was 20 (and in college). We both worked in an architecture firm. She liked the relationship because she got to relive the parts of college that she didn't experience when she went to school. She went to my frat parties and watched me play rugby on the weekends. I got an experienced woman who knew what she wanted sexually and was much more comfortable with her body. I learned so much from her and the girls I've been with after her have benefited (one wanted to meet her to personally thank her). We both liked seeing the college girls get bent out of shape when she'd come to a party.

we ended the relationship after she got a raise and accepted a position out of town. When we had our last date, she pretty much spelled it out that she had only intended the relationship to go on for maybe another year or two. She didn't want to have kids and she really wanted to have someone who wasn't in the same profession. As for me, I really like the things she taught me and I realized that she truly was "a friend with benefits."
[/anecdotal]


True, while the ages are closer together, you still are of legal drinking age while he is no where near. It gets tougher when you go to an event, dinner, or party where they would card (and you look like you need to be carded, too). Being a poor college student in LA must suck as well. Hopefully, no one's ego will get bent by you having the age advantage.



An oldie:
What do guys and linoleum have in common?
Lay 'em right the first time and you can walk all over them for the next 20 years.

Interesting anecdote, thank you for sharing MaxDepth. It sounds like you both benefitted from the relationship, and got what you wanted out of it. Are you two still friends?

As for him being 19... at first, he told me he was. And yesterday, it turns out he'll be 19 in a month... and for whoever asked, yes, I "ID-ed" him. He was born December 7, 1984.

 

[richardycc]

cool! going to disneyland together, this 18 y.o finally has a sister he can fool around with too, and Dezign just got a brother she never had....

 

[Miramonti]

what do your friends think about it?

 

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: richardycc
cool! going to disneyland together, this 18 y.o finally has a sister he can fool around with too, and Dezign just got a brother she never had....

I've never been to Disneyland, and I think it'd be a fun thing to do. I want to go on the Pirates of the Caribbean ride...

 

[lilFajita]

my only thoughts are that younger guys tend to get swept up into the thought of a relationship early on and just throw themselves into it. As long as you aren't putting a ton of yourself and expectations into it, you should be fine.

interesting tidbit...the way I found out about this board is that I guy I dated posted a YAGT about me, cause I was older than him. funny.

 

[PricklyPete]

I dated a girl 2 years older than me for a bit in college and we had no problems...but we were both in college. After college, I dated a girl who was almost 3 years older than me and we were fine...but we were both out of college.

All I know is that toward the end of college/as I got out, I was turned off by a lot of the girls I met in college. I think it is just different priorities at that point.

That would be my only reservation in your situation...you guys are likely to have different priorities at some point. I know I was a mess in college...never lived by any schedule, went out and partied all the time, etc. Toward the end of college and when I graduated, my life became much more structured and whatnot. I'm sure the experience is at least soemwhat the same for you. There is a lot of potential for you guys to have problems because he will feel that he is "burdened" by your lifestyle (not as much freedom as if he was going out with a girl in college). There is also potential for you to be somewhat "jealous" of his ability to be free with his time and want to go do things (like mid week road trips) that you can't fit into your schedule. I hope all this makes sense.

Having said all that...just go for it. If you hit those problems down the road...so be it...you guys just won't be right for each other at this point in time (who knows down the road). Have fun until a problem actually arises...don't overanalyze before that time comes.

 

[ElFenix]

Originally posted by: lilFajita
my only thoughts are that younger guys tend to get swept up into the thought of a relationship early on and just throw themselves into it. As long as you aren't putting a ton of yourself and expectations into it, you should be fine.

interesting tidbit...the way I found out about this board is that I guy I dated posted a YAGT about me, cause I was older than him. funny.

really? you were dating a member?!? where is the thread?

 

[eakers]

hey, it can work. 2 of my close friends got together.. shes 28 and he is 21

and they are very very happy.

goodluck.

 

[Jeff7181]

Geeze, I thought you were gonna say you were 30 and he's 18 or somethin... it's only 4 years... you two COULD be going to college together.

 

[fumbduck]

A month is a long way away, especially for a liar. What did he say when you said he lied to you?

I have a guy friend who is rather good looking who dates girls just for getting places, getting to go out to eat, all at the cost of them, I despise him for it, but he's still cool.

Now that I have commented on the way a guy looks, and found it good, I am going to throw a football.

 

[TekChik]

wow...and i'm 33 and dating a 26 yr old guy...

wonder if he wants to go see Brother Bear with me and my 3 yr old

 

[Rufio]

Originally posted by: fumbduck
A month is a long way away, especially for a liar. What did he say when you said he lied to you?

I have a guy friend who is rather good looking who dates girls just for getting places, getting to go out to eat, all at the cost of them, I despise him for it, but he's still cool.

Now that I have commented on the way a guy looks, and found it good, I am going to throw a football.

u sound jealous!

 

[fumbduck]

Originally posted by: Rufio

Originally posted by: fumbduck
A month is a long way away, especially for a liar. What did he say when you said he lied to you?

I have a guy friend who is rather good looking who dates girls just for getting places, getting to go out to eat, all at the cost of them, I despise him for it, but he's still cool.

Now that I have commented on the way a guy looks, and found it good, I am going to throw a football.

u sound jealous!

die in a fire

 

[Ausm]

Originally posted by: NutBucket
Since I saw Queens of Stone Age last Friday, Go with the Flooooooow

I wouldn't mind seeing those guys in concert..

Ausm

 

[Ausm]

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: MaxDepth
Sounds like winter candy to me.

[Anecdotal]I dated a 30 yr old woman while I was 20 (and in college). We both worked in an architecture firm. She liked the relationship because she got to relive the parts of college that she didn't experience when she went to school. She went to my frat parties and watched me play rugby on the weekends. I got an experienced woman who knew what she wanted sexually and was much more comfortable with her body. I learned so much from her and the girls I've been with after her have benefited (one wanted to meet her to personally thank her). We both liked seeing the college girls get bent out of shape when she'd come to a party.

we ended the relationship after she got a raise and accepted a position out of town. When we had our last date, she pretty much spelled it out that she had only intended the relationship to go on for maybe another year or two. She didn't want to have kids and she really wanted to have someone who wasn't in the same profession. As for me, I really like the things she taught me and I realized that she truly was "a friend with benefits."
[/anecdotal]


True, while the ages are closer together, you still are of legal drinking age while he is no where near. It gets tougher when you go to an event, dinner, or party where they would card (and you look like you need to be carded, too). Being a poor college student in LA must suck as well. Hopefully, no one's ego will get bent by you having the age advantage.



An oldie:
What do guys and linoleum have in common?
Lay 'em right the first time and you can walk all over them for the next 20 years.

Interesting anecdote, thank you for sharing MaxDepth. It sounds like you both benefitted from the relationship, and got what you wanted out of it. Are you two still friends?

As for him being 19... at first, he told me he was. And yesterday, it turns out he'll be 19 in a month... and for whoever asked, yes, I "ID-ed" him. He was born December 7, 1984.

Damn I was a junior in College then

Ausm