Does my brother fail @ life?

[brainhulk]

He's > 30, lives with my parents, plays age of empires everyday with his friends, but has a full time IT job...

 

[surfsatwerk]

Your brother's fine l2p.

 

[bignateyk]

hmm.. hard to say. If it weren't for the full time IT job I would say he is indeed a failure.

With the IT job I would say he is just more of a loser.

 

[BassBomb]

loser i agree, failure no because hes at least getting money in some way

 

[oogabooga]

hmm.. hard to say. If it weren't for the full time IT job I would say he is indeed a failure.

With the IT job I would say he is just more of a loser.

Does he ever go out?

At least it's not WoW?

 

[HardcoreRobot]

only fail if he is miserable. if he is happy, who cares

 

[TechBoyJK]

My problem is when people get to that age and they haven't found any kind of career/meaningful job yet.

I have a friend who still lives at home (in the same bedroom and bed he's had since he was a baby), is 31, plays online poker all day, and folds clothes at Macy's for $8 an hour. His parents bought him his last 4 cars. He keeps crashing them from being drunk.

 

[spidey07]

Unable to support yourself as an adult = failure at life.

 

[rivan]

Why's he still at home? There are a number of possible good reasons.

• Helping take care of your elderly parents, even tacitly?
• Saving on rent for a huge down payment?
• The location keeps him closer to his drug client base?
• etc?

 

[darkxshade]

You just alienated like a majority of this forum.

 

[TridenT]

only fail if he is miserable. if he is happy, who cares

This. Everyone fails at life if they're miserable, but if they're happy... they win. :awe:

 

[KeithTalent]

Age Of Empires? Yes, fail.

KT

 

[TridenT]

Age Of Empires? Yes, fail.

KT

Are you shitting me? Age of Empires is awesome...

Mind you, I've kinda gotten tired of it now, but it got me hundreds of hours of enjoyment.

 

[Lamont Burns]

is he good at the game?!?!?

 

[PieIsAwesome]

Age of Empires is lame.

 

[DesiPower]

I am basically on the other side on the spectrum, so no, my bro is not fail.

 

[Tristicus]

Age of Empires is lame.

You shall be smitten by the gods for your blasphemy.

 

[GeekDrew]

Unable to support yourself as an adult = failure at life.

Where did he said that he couldn't support himself?

 

[speg]

Age of Empires, as in the original? If so, then yes.

 

[DrunkenSano]

With current economy, not fail. He's saving a ton of rent money and utilities probably, living at home. Once the housing market goes back on an upswing, he should be able to cash in on a nice house and earn some $$$. If he still chooses to stay at home, then fail.

 

[spidey07]

With current economy, not fail. He's saving a ton of rent money and utilities probably, living at home. Once the housing market goes back on an upswing, he should be able to cash in on a nice house and earn some $$$. If he still chooses to stay at home, then fail.

No, he's essentially stealing from his parents. Stealing their shelter, their food, their comfort/utilities. Only losers and complete and utter failures use the "but I'm saving for a house!" excuse.

Get off your ass and move out and put a roof over your head. Until then you are still a child. In OP's brother's case, a 31 year old child.

 

[darkxshade]

No, he's essentially stealing from his parents. Stealing their shelter, their food, their comfort/utilities. Only losers and complete and utter failures use the "but I'm saving for a house!" excuse.

Get off your ass and move out and put a roof over your head. Until then you are still a child. In OP's brother's case, a 31 year old child.

Curious... what if he's paying for all of that?

 

[spidey07]

Curious... what if he's paying for all of that?

The only acceptable excuse is supporting your parents entirely. Meaning you're the one putting roof over head, food on the table, warmth via electricity.

And even that is a little creepy unless they have medical conditions.

 

[Possessed Freak]

No, he's essentially stealing from his parents. Stealing their shelter, their food, their comfort/utilities. Only losers and complete and utter failures use the "but I'm saving for a house!" excuse.

Get off your ass and move out and put a roof over your head. Until then you are still a child. In OP's brother's case, a 31 year old child.

If he is paying rent, that is okay.
If he is paying back student loans, that is okay.
If not and just mooching... that is still okay if it is okay with the 'rents.

I payed rent at my mother's as soon as I graduated college.

 

[GeekDrew]

No, he's essentially stealing from his parents. Stealing their shelter, their food, their comfort/utilities. Only losers and complete and utter failures use the "but I'm saving for a house!" excuse.

Get off your ass and move out and put a roof over your head. Until then you are still a child. In OP's brother's case, a 31 year old child.

Christ, I generally respect your opinion, but I just don't understand this way of thinking at all.