Does my brother fail @ life?

[Suspicious-Teach8788]

If it weren't for the IT job I'd say he's ok. If he's a senior development engineer at Apple or Google, I'd say sure. In career, you're fine. All it takes is to move the fuck out. I mean plenty of Asians live at home like myself. I have plenty of friends who do the same. It's a matter of saving money, although 30 is way too long. 25 is acceptable.

 

[IndyColtsFan]

Yes he does. If 2/3 of people here said no you guys also fail at life. Have some damn self-respect. What sort of 30+ lives at home and plays video games, job or not? That is pure fail. Unadulterated crystallized pureness of fail.

Hey now! I am 30+ and play video games!






I also have a full time job, a wife, and my own home, too.

 

[nageov3t]

yeah i think you're mistaken. plus, irrelevant to the subject

I'd think that anyone who went straight from having their mom take care of their every need to having their wife take care of their every need with no clue how to take care of themselves, wouldn't be in a position to call anyone else pathetic.

 

[zephyrprime]

I don't think it pays great (he got full time from part time a couple months ago), but definitely enough were he can get an apartment and support himself. He's hording his money so he can buy a fuckin gt500.

Ok that is moronic. I don't think it's necessarily bad to still be living with the parents if he has a job but you have to admit that with no pad and not girl, his life is looking pretty bleak. Don't waste $50K on a car when you should be applying that money to a condo or a house. Nobody should be buying or leasing a fancy car who doesn't already own a house or a condo.

 

[Zargon]

Nobody should be buying or leasing a fancy car who doesn't already own a house or a condo.

uh sure......


OP your brothers situation is bleak but not that abnormal. he should def be giving your parents some $$$

 

[ModerateRepZero]

he only fails at life if he has no income or possible means of supporting himself. The fact that he has a decent job means that he's not a complete loser, although playing games the whole day and living with parents doesn't make him attractive with the ladies.

 

[spidey07]

uh sure......


OP your brothers situation is bleak but not that abnormal. he should def be giving your parents some $$$

Oh, it's VERY abnormal. Any reasonable adult would conclude "fail at life" on a 31 year old "adult" living with his parents.

Do you know what happens to losers and failures in life? They go back to live in their parents nest or even worse, they never leave. It's VERY abnormal. The fact that his friends are such losers only reinforces the view that his behavior is "normal". It's not.

Inability to provide and care for yourself and others = failure at life.

 

[TridenT]

Oh, it's VERY abnormal. Any reasonable adult would conclude "fail at life" on a 31 year old "adult" living with his parents.

Do you know what happens to losers and failures in life? They go back to live in their parents nest or even worse, they never leave. It's VERY abnormal. The fact that his friends are such losers only reinforces the view that his behavior is "normal". It's not.

Inability to provide and care for yourself and others = failure at life.

I don't really see him as doing that...

As long as he is happy and his parents are fine with it... why should this even be talking matter?

 

[moparacer]

The dudes 30 and still living at home.

If hes lucky, hes 1/3 the way through his life and if hes unlucky he might be at the half way point.

To have no structure and no plan at this point in your life, and your primary emphasis is a video game, reaks of failure.

 

[TridenT]

The dudes 30 and still living at home.

If hes lucky, hes 1/3 the way through his life and if hes unlucky he might be at the half way point.

To have no structure and no plan at this point in your life, and your primary emphasis is a video game, reaks of failure.

There is no point to life, so... why plan for nothing?

 

[spidey07]

I don't really see him as doing that...

As long as he is happy and his parents are fine with it... why should this even be talking matter?

Because he would be much happier and experience more to life if he were to make his own path.

But such is the mind of a failure in life. Somebody else is providing food, shelter. Failure in life is being unable to provide for yourself. One is a leech if they do so.

If Darwin were to prevail, the rest of us would kill him and eat him. I'm fine with that.

 

[coreyb]

he's over 30 and lives at home. he is a loser

/thread

 

[TridenT]

Because he would be much happier and experience more to life if he were to make his own path.

But such is the mind of a failure in life. Somebody else is providing food, shelter. Failure in life is being unable to provide for yourself. One is a leech if they do so.

If Darwin were to prevail, the rest of us would kill him and eat him. I'm fine with that.

Just because you enjoy something doesn't mean he will. i.e. You probably don't enjoy surprise buttsex but a lot of people do.

 

[mav451]

Lol that's some example to use.

 

[pontifex]

wow...are your lives that boring/sad that you have to sit here and worry about what people you don't even know, have never met, people who have never even posted on this forum do?

If his parents minded, they would have kicked him out/told him to get out. That's between him and his parents, not a bunch of random people on an internet forum.

as someone else already said, the fact that you're on here doing this means that you fail at life also.

 

[TridenT]

Lol that's some example to use.

Anything more complex might have him confused.

 

[Nemesis 1]

There is much to be said for my grandparents generation . If you have time and can find the movie . Watch Tarnished Angels . Its an old movie but I think it will help you answer the question you need to find . Its an old movie but worth its weight in Gold as to the lessons it teaches. I think all should view it with an open mind and heart . Because heart is what its about.

 

[Powermoloch]

Hardly a fail. We're just only learn your side of the story.

 

[Zargon]

Oh, it's VERY abnormal. Any reasonable adult would conclude "fail at life" on a 31 year old "adult" living with his parents.

Do you know what happens to losers and failures in life? They go back to live in their parents nest or even worse, they never leave. It's VERY abnormal. The fact that his friends are such losers only reinforces the view that his behavior is "normal". It's not.

Inability to provide and care for yourself and others = failure at life.

I'm sure you are well versed at being a failure, so I won't argue with your credentials to know as such.

'What if' he was renting from his parents, would that make him less of a loser?

true I dont know many people that age living with the rents, but I know plenty renting shitty houses or apartments I wouldnt want to live in, instead of living in my parents basement!

part of me is insanely jealous of that total lack of responsibilities. most definitions of 'being a success' generally involve willing taking on lots of responsibilities you dont really want

 

[dabuddha]

Oh, it's VERY abnormal. Any reasonable adult would conclude "fail at life" on a 31 year old "adult" living with his parents.

Do you know what happens to losers and failures in life? They go back to live in their parents nest or even worse, they never leave. It's VERY abnormal. The fact that his friends are such losers only reinforces the view that his behavior is "normal". It's not.

Inability to provide and care for yourself and others = failure at life.

Spoken like an ignorant American who has no clue about life outside the US or his closed mind. Trident said it best.

 

[SillyOReilly]

 

[Pacfanweb]

Over 30, still living with parents = FAIL.

Only exception is if he just got out of the Army and is just bunking there until he gets his own place, or maybe he just got separated and is staying there a couple months to get his finances in order so he can get his own place.

In any case, if he's not trying to get his own place, he is a loser, regardless of how much he makes.

 

[Hacp]

He's doing what he can to better himself. Why are so many in this thread bashing a productive, working man? Just because he can't have a fancy house with a fancy mortgage doesn't make him a failure. Did George Washington live with his mama? I'm not too sure but probably yes! In the old days, people stayed in their parents houses for ages. Now, everyone wants their own house. Look where that got us? The housing bubble!

What else would you have this guy do? Live on food stamps, welfare, and section 8?

 

[Pacfanweb]

He's doing what he can to better himself. Why are so many in this thread bashing a productive, working man? Just because he can't have a fancy house with a fancy mortgage doesn't make him a failure. Did George Washington live with his mama? I'm not too sure but probably yes! [bold]In the old days, people stayed in their parents houses for ages.[/bold] Now, everyone wants their own house. Look where that got us? The housing bubble!

In the old days, they also had no running water, got around on horse, and got scalped by Indians.

Why would anyone ever want to change any of that? It was good enough for our forefathers, after all.

 

[Pacfanweb]

he does not pay rent but he does give my parents money (no where near close to what rent would be).

I just don't know if I should intervene, or just leave it be. I don't even know if he values my opinion. He told me I am too manipulative and hard to trust (our relationship as kids), although we get along now.

He used to have a girlfriend in college that didn't work out, and thats it. All his friends are in the same position as him, working and living with mommy and daddy.

I dont know, my parents will never kick him out, it's not in our culture. But sometimes I think that doing so would have been better for him.

Yes, it would have. Make him stand on his own two feet. Not only is your brother "fail", but so are your parents for not pushing him out when he needed to be.