Girlfriend cheated on me

[Juniper]

Hi virtuamike...

Thats a good thing that you're thinking ahead and made some resolutions for yourself. Just dunt drink too much ok?

Hang in there!!!

 

[bozack]

First thing is first man...you have a mission....

Sober the heck up and GET HER OUT OF THE HOUSE!!!!

don't even bother talking to her sister as she is probabily on Her side as they are blood....

But you must get her out, and never talk to her again, ever...heck I wouldn't even talk to her now. Personally I would be as mean as possible just to get her out, constantly calling her bad names (profanity) and being the biggest a hole that I could be (I am kind of known for being an A hole so it comes naturally)....

I have told my girlfriend (who I have been with 6 years and living with for 2) that the second I found out she cheated on me, if she ever did..that she would be out the door, no questions asked and that I would never talk to her again....and I mean it

 

[lowlevel]

D@mn, been there, done that...

...except we were engaged at the time (8 years ago), and she decided she was gonna start dating SEVERAL people at work!!! :|

I feel for ya, and as bad as you feel now, kicking her arse to the curb is the BEST thing you coulda done for yourself!

 

[themightyplatypus]

Dump her

 

[aznspeed]

everything happens for a reason.
the best advice I can offer is to move on.
Some things are better left untouched.
Someone that doesn't value the relationship doesn't deserve to be in it.

Don't be too hard on yourself, things will look better and this experience will help you choose a better g/f

 

[Azraele]

This is OT a bit, but if you want to get your cats to an ideal weight (what kind of cats are they? Maine Coons, for example, weigh more and are bigger than your average cat), try coordinating a low cal food given twice a day (once in the morning, once in the evening, talk to your vet about an ideal amount) with plenty of exercise. Get them toys to play with, and maybe even put their food in a place where they will have to work a tad harder to get to it (for example, put it upstairs if possible, or on a surface they'd have to jump up to). Cut back on food scraps if you feed them those. People food will not help them lose weight. Get them a package of kitty treats and give those instead. If you feel your kitty's side, you should be able to feel the ribs through a small layer of fat. If you can feel them too easily and they're bony feeling, your cat is too thin. If you have a hard time feeling the ribs, your cat is a bit too fat.


You're on the right track, it will be tough for a while, but things will improve.

 

[StageLeft]

That's tough man, especially since you're living with her as well. Unfortunately given that this is a long term thing and not a one-time slip up (which even then many would not forgive) there is no way in hell you can continue a relationship with her ever. It will never work and please for your own sake don't try and make it work.

PS - One of our cats is named Abby and she is overweight. We call her flabby abby and pinch her stomach. I think we may have given her a complex but I know how it feels to have a chubby cat. She is going on a diet soon too Better her than me!

 

[yellowvespa]

Just as well that it happened now and you are able to move on. Keep the spirits high.

Let me also say this. Once a gf/wife bf/husband has lied or cheated on you, you can NEVER trust a thing they tell you to be true. There is always that question in the back of your mind, even years later. Just move on and find a true lover.

 

[Doggiedog]

Sorry to hear that VM. I had that happen to me too but with my fiancee 6 years ago. My best friend caught his fiancee doing the nasty in her apartment with some guy too. Just be aware you are not alone.

I'm happily married now with 2 kids so life goes on.

My advice to you is take this opportunity to do things you normally wouldn't do since you probably had some kind of routine while living with her. Take an archery class or a square dancing class. My buddy went to a square dancing class in NY and hit the jackpot. He was the only guy in a class full of women sent there by the Ford modeling agency!

You never know.

 

[Kenji4861]

THat hella sux. what a b*tch. Work out a little bit and learn some moves and go beat the hell out of the new guy. j/k

 

[stockjock]

Dude I feel your pain!!!
I was married for 7 years when I found out my wife was cheating on me!!! She told me that she needed a vacation by herself...I told sure go ahead as I trusted her (looking back I was a big fool to trust her..LOL!), I will stay home and watch our daughter (who was 1.5 years then). She told me where she would be staying but didn't give me the phone number. The day came when she left and things were fine (she was gonna be gone for 3 days). I had to go into my office one of the days so I took our daughter to the sitters house and decided I would look up the number where my wife was staying and call her to see when she would be home (it was the last day of her stay) so she would know to pick up our daughter if she got home before me....
So, here is how the call went...and imagine me sitting in my office doing this...Called hotel and asked for Mrs. Stockjock....I'm sorry there is no Mrs. Stockjock registered...I said are you sure would you look it up again..I know she is there as she called once or twice from there. Front Desk person said nope..no one by that name...To this day I still don't know why or how but I just got this really bad feeling in my gut and I asked the front desk person to see if there was Mr. XXX and Mrs. XXX registered (names changed to protect the....well not the innocent..thats for sure). The desk clerk said yup there is...My heart just about stopped!!!. She rang the room up for me and guess who answered....my wife and I could here Mr. XXX in the background!!!! Talk about the darkest days of my life...
Well, that was 8 years ago..I've since remarried to a wonderful woman and my daughter lives with us and her two boys. You see, there is always something better and I think it was meant to be....THERE ARE OTHER FISH IN THE SEA!!!!

 

[Gunther]

<< Take an archery class or a square dancing class. My buddy went to a square dancing class in NY and hit the jackpot. He was the only guy in a class full of women sent there by the Ford modeling agency! >>

OMG LOL! Ya like everyone else is saying just move on, and please no revenge things, because you might get too drunk and do something crazy that will land you in jail.

 

[Grinchy]

sorry man. humans are least decent to those they care about the most. no aphorisms will help now, so I won't try. just know that you're not alone in the world and that lots of people are sending you positives right now.

 

[badluck]

One of my buddies told me that when his girlfriend cheated on him he acted like he wanted to work things out. So after a day or so that led to make-up sex. I guess he just went at it and when HE finished, he spit on her face and threw her ass out of the apartment half-naked??? As she was walking out he asked her, how does it feel to be treated like a s*ut.......He said the look on her face, was priceless......I dunno, worked for him.

 

[Ferocious]

<< I have told my girlfriend (who I have been with 6 years and living with for 2) that the second I found out she cheated on me, if she ever did..that she would be out the door, no questions asked and that I would never talk to her again....and I mean it >>



Actually I do the opposite, but mean what you do.

I tell her to tell me if it should ever happen, and we'd talk about it, and I'd maybe try to understand....blah blah.

Otherwise I might not find out for a much longer time (if ever). And I'd want to know asap so I could dump her asap!

Fortunately I have never had to deal with this issue so far.

 

[amnesiac]

Hahah Badluck, your friend kicks ass.

 

[virtuamike]

you were right about one thing, i have one hell of a hangover. ugh, my stomach hurts too, definately never going to drink that much again.

 

[Beau]

<< you were right about one thing, i have one hell of a hangover. ugh, my stomach hurts too, definately never going to drink that much again. >>

Hey, good morning! I hope you didn't do too much praying to the procelain god

 

[cressida]

<< i've made a new resolution to better my life. I'm going to pay off my debts, do good in class, kick ass at my job, get my cats skinny, get me skinny, and buy a toyota matrix (b/c it's a cool looking car). I'm also going to get a 17" lcd to replace my monitor, build a home theater PC, design a better mouse trap, stop burning food, and get my cats skinny (they're going on a diet with me). As far as she's concerned, i'm changing the locks, my name is the only one on the lease, she's hit the road and out of my life. It'll be better without her, i have more important things to care about (like Jose and Absoluta). I smell corn dogs, i'm going to eat now. >>



it's a good idea to keep yourself occupied but don't try to push it away cuz it will just come back and hit you harder.. It's going to be painful but don't let your life slip cuz if you do, then everything else around your life will too, i.e. school, work ....

 

[Croton]

hey i wanna see pictures of your fatttttttt cats!

 

[Milkman95]

Ya! WE want pics! (of the cats)

Of course.. i wouldn't mind the location of the "online strip club" that we can all attend and down a few

 

[virtuamike]

My jaw hurts, i think i fell on it last night but i can't remember on what. I'm going back to my parent's house for the weekend, maybe I'll cheer up there.

 

[DDCSpeed]

I know what you are going through. I am assuming she has sex with the other guy...as in my situation. You will be over her as soon as you find yourself another lady. Your "ex-gf" will try to apologize to you and say she is sorry but dont get soft hearted because she will do the same thing to you again if you take her back into your life. Just ignore her. Dont try to call her because after all you kicked her out.

 

[Stark]

At least you're not married.

Go rent Swingers. That's the most accurate movie about post breakup manhood I've every seen. And she will call and try to get you back... count on it. When that happens, you must be strong, young Jedi.

 

[y2kc]

<< One of my buddies told me that when his girlfriend cheated on him he acted like he wanted to work things out. So after a day or so that led to make-up sex. I guess he just went at it and when HE finished, he spit on her face and threw her ass out of the apartment half-naked??? As she was walking out he asked her, how does it feel to be treated like a s*ut.......He said the look on her face, was priceless......I dunno, worked for him. >>



LOL!!!! I did the exact same thing except it wasn't spit on her face....it was something else , anyways, the payback was awesome. I felt much better, she threw a chair at me on her way out of the door.......totally pi$$ed.