Girl's mom

[shortylickens]

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
I'm going to guess 16.

- M4H

Originally posted by: crazySOB297
16, and she's 17.

I respect her fully, yes ma'am no ma'am. I do everything I can to help her, hell I do the dishes at their house when I eat dinner with them. I helped put up/take down christmas decorations. I took britt to the doctor when she couldn't..
No matter what it is I respect adults, but she blatanly disrespects me.

How DID he know!?!?

Oh, and coming from a 26 year old who has been 16 already: You are not entitled to respect from a woman who has lived life and made babies and raised them and run a household.
The BEST thing you can do is show some respect for the woman who is the legal guardian of your girlfirend.

 

[arcenite]

Shut the ****** up and learn your role. If her mother doesn't like you, neither do I.

 

[EightySix Four]

There's a difference though between being protective, and just flat out treating someone poorly.

I don't see how you guys figure I disrespect her, I don't talk poorly of her as a person, I dislike a thing or two she has done, and the way she has treated me. Which no matter the age or situation could be understood, can't it?

 

[Buck Naked]

Originally posted by: IHateMyJob2004
There is no such thing as a serious relationship if you are under 25. "Serious" is something that is not needed by anyone till atleast 21. If you are in high school, just have fun.

:thumbsup:

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: shortylickens
How DID he know!?!?

:beer:

- M4H

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: crazySOB297
Yes, but like was said, respect goes both ways, and whether she feels I'm just a kid or not, should she not at least respect me?

Sadly, regardless of right or wrong, you have no choice in the matter so long as she lives with her mom.

 

[FoBoT]

Originally posted by: LadyBuggy
How old are you and the girl?

^^^

unless you are both over 21 , you are wrong

 

[Saint Nick]

Originally posted by: crazySOB297
I'm in a relatively serious relationship with a girl, and her parents, mom in specific, is starting to butt in, believing we are to serious and the like.

Frankly it's starting to piss me off, the girl and I can make our own decisions, and it's just her mom trying to hold on because she doesn't want her to grow up. The mom is slowly invading both of our privacy more and more and it's got me to the point where I don't respect her mother because of her inability to respect either of us.

I won't break it off with the girl because of her family, but it is angering me, and I was curious if anyone had some advice.

Been there, done that. Her mom will eventually lighten up. Just keep doing what you are doing.

 

[NFS4]

What exactly is she doing that is pissing you off? Give us an example?

 

[AreaCode707]

You may want to take note of your style of interaction if most people here could tell you're 16 from a single post. It indicates that you're thinking about this in a less-than-mature way, at least to some extent.

 

[FoBoT]

Originally posted by: crazySOB297
16, and she's 17.

whoop!! whoop!!

you are both children, go find some toys to play with and leave the girl alone

 

[EightySix Four]

Ok, she never asks for anything, it's always I'm told to do something, from my own parents, fine, but not from someone elses.

She attempted to go through my text messages on my phone to see my conversations when I sat it on the counter and was talking to her dad for a moment. I don't care who you are, you don't go through someones personal stuff without asking.

She has attempted to get my wallet for unknown reasons; my girlfriend believes that it was too look for condoms, but I'm not sure.

And just general behavior towards me is poor.

 

[NFS4]

Originally posted by: crazySOB297
She attempted to go through my text messages on my phone to see my conversations when I sat it on the counter and was talking to her dad for a moment.

She has attempted to get my wallet for unknown reasons; my girlfriend believes that it was too look for condoms, but I'm not sure.

Sounds like a mom being a mom...just not very good about doing it w/o getting caught.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: crazySOB297
Ok, she never asks for anything, it's always I'm told to do something, from my own parents, fine, but not from someone elses.

She attempted to go through my text messages on my phone to see my conversations when I sat it on the counter and was talking to her dad for a moment.

She has attempted to get my wallet for unknown reasons; my girlfriend believes that it was too look for condoms, but I'm not sure.

And just general actions towards me.

"Excuse me, but that's my (phone/wallet/other personal property) and I'd appreciate it if you would respect my privacy." (Take phone/wallet/personal property back.) "Thank you."

- M4H

 

[EightySix Four]

I have never had a parent attempt to go through my stuff like this before. My own parents don't do it. I wouldn't honestly care if she'd be in general nicer toward me, I have nothing to hide, but the worse she treats me, the more blown up things are and the worse I take her every action.

 

[Zim Hosein]

Originally posted by: crazySOB297
Ok, she never asks for anything, it's always I'm told to do something, from my own parents, fine, but not from someone elses.

She attempted to go through my text messages on my phone to see my conversations when I sat it on the counter and was talking to her dad for a moment. I don't care who you are, you don't go through someones personal stuff without asking.

She has attempted to get my wallet for unknown reasons; my girlfriend believes that it was too look for condoms, but I'm not sure.

And just general behavior towards me is poor.

Welcome to life dating a girl crazySOB297!

 

[SagaLore]

Originally posted by: crazySOB297
Yes but it's to the point where she's disrespecting me, and I'm not her child.

But her daughter is. Live with it.

 

[NFS4]

Originally posted by: crazySOB297
I have never had a parent attempt to go through my stuff like this before. My own parents don't do it. I wouldn't honestly care if she'd be in general nicer toward me, I have nothing to hide, but the worse she treats me, the more blown up things are and the worse I take her every action.

You'd be surprised at how much your parents check up on the things you do without you noticing...

Some are good at it. Some aren't. Obviously, she isn't good at it.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: NFS4

Originally posted by: crazySOB297
She attempted to go through my text messages on my phone to see my conversations when I sat it on the counter and was talking to her dad for a moment.

She has attempted to get my wallet for unknown reasons; my girlfriend believes that it was too look for condoms, but I'm not sure.

Sounds like a mom being a mom...just not very good about doing it w/o getting caught.

Yep. You should be expecting that her mother/father/siblings will snoop around, so prepare for that however you'd like - by keeping your phone/wallet on you, for example - but to do it right in front of you is just ... well ... dumb.

Taking a stab in the dark here - but are she and her parents Asian?

- M4H

 

[dawnbug]

I think you have two choices: put up with it or get out of the situation. If you choose to put up with it, you're probably going to want to evaluate your relationship with your girlfriend from her mother's point of view and if you'd like things to be more civil with her, change whatever you're doing that's making her mad.

 

[EightySix Four]

The girl does it too, but that's a different story

 

[Fritzo]

Originally posted by: crazySOB297
16, and she's 17.

I respect her fully, yes ma'am no ma'am. I do everything I can to help her, hell I do the dishes at their house when I eat dinner with them. I helped put up/take down christmas decorations. I took britt to the doctor when she couldn't..

No matter what it is I respect adults, but she blatanly disrespects me.

You're probably too "serious" for your ages. She's concerned about her daughter being tied down, knocked up, missing college, not focusing on education, etc, and YOU'RE butting in on the mother's raising of her child.

Chew on that for a minute.

 

[SagaLore]

Originally posted by: crazySOB297
Yes, but like was said, respect goes both ways, and whether she feels I'm just a kid or not, should she not at least respect me?

I don't think this is a respect issue. I think it is a trust and responsibility issue.

See, you have these little guys called sperm, and if they happen to meet this little guy called egg, then who's problem is it? At that age, it is the Mother's problem.

 

[EightySix Four]

Originally posted by: Fritzo

Originally posted by: crazySOB297
16, and she's 17.

I respect her fully, yes ma'am no ma'am. I do everything I can to help her, hell I do the dishes at their house when I eat dinner with them. I helped put up/take down christmas decorations. I took britt to the doctor when she couldn't..

No matter what it is I respect adults, but she blatanly disrespects me.

You're probably too "serious" for your ages. She's concerned about her daughter being tied down, knocked up, missing college, not focusing on education, etc, and YOU'RE butting in on the mother's raising of her child.

Chew on that for a minute.

I have, and I understand her position. But she doesn't have to treat me like something that backed up into the toilet.

 

[eelw]

Originally posted by: crazySOB297
She attempted to go through my text messages on my phone to see my conversations when I sat it on the counter and was talking to her dad for a moment. I don't care who you are, you don't go through someones personal stuff without asking.

She has attempted to get my wallet for unknown reasons; my girlfriend believes that it was too look for condoms, but I'm not sure.

And just general behavior towards me is poor.

Okay, that is crossing the line.