GUYS: Dating Do's & Don'ts

[Xstatic1]

Originally posted by: Whoozyerdaddy

Originally posted by: Xstatic1

my baad, you're half an ocean away.

totally agree with you about white shorts going with anything too.

Fly over. I'll buy you a beer at any "Xstatic1 approved" establishment you choose. :beer:

you're like totally cool! you realize i'm going to hold you to that offer if i ever make it out to the islands? don't think i won't, LOL!

 

[Whoozyerdaddy]

Originally posted by: Xstatic1

Originally posted by: Whoozyerdaddy

Originally posted by: Xstatic1

my baad, you're half an ocean away.

totally agree with you about white shorts going with anything too.

Fly over. I'll buy you a beer at any "Xstatic1 approved" establishment you choose. :beer:

you're like totally cool! you realize i'm going to hold you to that offer if i ever make it out to the islands? don't think i won't, LOL!

Teasing is bad...

 

[Xstatic1]

Originally posted by: Marlin1975

Originally posted by: Xstatic1

Originally posted by: Marlin1975
From reading that I take it your not married?

i'm lost. what does my marital status have anything to do with my pointers?

That would be a yes.

If a woman only picks a guy based on how much money he tips, or irons his shirts, if his shirt matches his pants to HER spec, etc... then the guy would be the lucky one to not have to see that kind of woman again.

in general, a woman on a date with a guy doesn't care how much the guy will be tipping. i posted the link to the article & my own pointers 'cause i would think a guy who took the time to ask a girl out is typically quite interested in her (& maybe even enamored by her)...like the movie "Hitch" starring Will Smith giving advice to one of his clients and the article i linked to state "YOUR ENTIRE GOAL FOR THE FIRST DATE IS TO GET A SECOND DATE". why blow your changes for a 2nd date by showing up in a wrinkled shirt or clothes that don't match? most women usually make an effort (sometimes huge efforts) to look nice for a date, isn't it reasonable that she somewhat expect that from the guy as well? think back to when you were dating (by your sig, we all know you're married)...how would you feel if you picked up or met up with your date and she looked like she hadn't combed/brushed her hair, or she had a few noticeable runs on her pantyhose or she was in serious need of a manicure? don't tell me you wouldn't mentally dock her a few points. why? because she knew you two were going out and she didn't seem to care to make a good impression. and that's all i'm saying. make the best impression you can in your appearance for a date because what you & the girl talk about during the date is where the personalities come to play...and that should really be the main factor in determining if there is to be a 2nd date.

 

[Xstatic1]

Originally posted by: Oceandevi
I have no style.

Its all about personality man! If you can keep her on her toes and be fun... then you win!!!

great you brought that up. yep yep, having a great personality & being fun will score ya big points with women!!! it has always been a rule of mine not to go out with guys who were dull or shy, even if they seemed like nice guys. i guess it's kinda like how my guy friends complain when they go out with girls who can only talk about clothes & shoes. boringggggg!

 

[Xstatic1]

Originally posted by: Whoozyerdaddy

Originally posted by: Xstatic1

Originally posted by: Whoozyerdaddy

Fly over. I'll buy you a beer at any "Xstatic1 approved" establishment you choose. :beer:

you're like totally cool! you realize i'm going to hold you to that offer if i ever make it out to the islands? don't think i won't, LOL!

Teasing is bad...

you think i'm teasing, eh? well, i've have you know...i say what i mean...and mean what i say.

 

[BigJelly]

Originally posted by: TruePaige

Originally posted by: Xstatic1

Originally posted by: andylawcc

Originally posted by: mrkun

Originally posted by: Xstatic1
another likely scenario--let's say the bill rounded up to the nearest whole dollar is $42 & you're paying with three $20s ($60), just tell the wait person what you want back for your change, excluding the tip.

This one sounds rather iffy to me.

me too.

what's not to get with this? the example is a $42 bill....and say you want to leave a 15% tip (rounded to the nearest dollar would be $7). so like just tell the waiter you want 11 bucks back. is that a better explanation?

It just sounds kind of ass backwards to me.

*slides card into holster and writes tip amount on receipt*

Everytime I pay with a credit card, I tip in cash (only time I don't tip in cash is when I don't have any). Government takes enough already :|.

BOT: I feel anouncing your tip seems self centered, it screams: "See I'm generous." People that usually say what they are, aren't what they say; I let my actions speak for themself.

 

[angminas]

#1 and #2 depend a lot on whether they come from cluelessness or laziness.

I agree with #3.

I think #4 is silly and controlling. Any woman who cares about that is probably off my list. However, any woman who isn't interested in tipping a proper amount is probably also off my list. Small things can say a lot sometimes, but, by golly, I'm going to be me and not a puppet. If she doesn't like that, there are plenty of pushovers out there for her to manipulate, and I'll be better off for not wasting my time.

 

[sniperruff]

i thought all of the things mentioned were common sense.

a few more to add IMO:

- don't be frugal. you can be frugal by yourself or with some close friends... but when you're with a girl, don't pull out the coupon book or order "special extra value of the day".
- ask questions and listen... but also chip in your own stories.
- don't interrupt when someone's speaking.
- take the initiative. be the one who deals with the waiter, be the one who suggests what to do after dinner, etc.
- there's no such thing as over-dressing. wear some nice pants and a shirt with some decent shoes. save your casual clothing for when you're more familiar with someone.

what do you guys think?

 

[BD2003]

Originally posted by: Xstatic1

Originally posted by: Marlin1975

Originally posted by: Xstatic1

Originally posted by: Marlin1975
From reading that I take it your not married?

i'm lost. what does my marital status have anything to do with my pointers?

That would be a yes.

If a woman only picks a guy based on how much money he tips, or irons his shirts, if his shirt matches his pants to HER spec, etc... then the guy would be the lucky one to not have to see that kind of woman again.

in general, a woman on a date with a guy doesn't care how much the guy will be tipping. i posted the link to the article & my own pointers 'cause i would think a guy who took the time to ask a girl out is typically quite interested in her (& maybe even enamored by her)...like the movie "Hitch" starring Will Smith giving advice to one of his clients and the article i linked to state "YOUR ENTIRE GOAL FOR THE FIRST DATE IS TO GET A SECOND DATE". why blow your changes for a 2nd date by showing up in a wrinkled shirt or clothes that don't match? most women usually make an effort (sometimes huge efforts) to look nice for a date, isn't it reasonable that she somewhat expect that from the guy as well? think back to when you were dating (by your sig, we all know you're married)...how would you feel if you picked up or met up with your date and she looked like she hadn't combed/brushed her hair, or she had a few noticeable runs on her pantyhose or she was in serious need of a manicure? don't tell me you wouldn't mentally dock her a few points. why? because she knew you two were going out and she didn't seem to care to make a good impression. and that's all i'm saying. make the best impression you can in your appearance for a date because what you & the girl talk about during the date is where the personalities come to play...and that should really be the main factor in determining if there is to be a 2nd date.

I've found that in general, what women say they want and what women REALLY want are two entirely different things.

Honestly, I'd say you're almost better off wearing a semi wrinkled shirt, just so you can weed out the shallow girls that wont date you cause of your ironing skills.

Dont be a dick, relax, and treat her as you wish to be treated. If thats not good enough for her now, it'll never be, and she's not the one for you. If all goes well, your natural chemistry will come out, and IMO, thats the goal on a first date, NOT "get a second date at all costs."

 

[BD2003]

Originally posted by: sniperruff
i thought all of the things mentioned were common sense.

a few more to add IMO:

- don't be frugal. you can be frugal by yourself or with some close friends... but when you're with a girl, don't pull out the coupon book or order "special extra value of the day".
- ask questions and listen... but also chip in your own stories.
- don't interrupt when someone's speaking.
- take the initiative. be the one who deals with the waiter, be the one who suggests what to do after dinner, etc.
- there's no such thing as over-dressing. wear some nice pants and a shirt with some decent shoes. save your casual clothing for when you're more familiar with someone.

what do you guys think?

It just depends who you are and who she is. Some girls want to be treated like royalty, and some are just chill. Many wont care if you bust out a coupon or order something small. Many dont expect you to have ten activities planned out, and I'd say that most if not all are perfectly fine with you dressing as you normally do.

You could make a list a mile long of how to make a girl that normally wouldnt like you like you, but thats only useful for getting a girl into bed. If you're going to click with the girl, doing anything on a "list" that you normally wouldnt think to do before a date is probably pointless.

 

[sniperruff]

Originally posted by: BD2003

Originally posted by: sniperruff
i thought all of the things mentioned were common sense.

a few more to add IMO:

- don't be frugal. you can be frugal by yourself or with some close friends... but when you're with a girl, don't pull out the coupon book or order "special extra value of the day".
- ask questions and listen... but also chip in your own stories.
- don't interrupt when someone's speaking.
- take the initiative. be the one who deals with the waiter, be the one who suggests what to do after dinner, etc.
- there's no such thing as over-dressing. wear some nice pants and a shirt with some decent shoes. save your casual clothing for when you're more familiar with someone.

what do you guys think?

It just depends who you are and who she is. Some girls want to be treated like royalty, and some are just chill. Many wont care if you bust out a coupon or order something small. Many dont expect you to have ten activities planned out, and I'd say that most if not all are perfectly fine with you dressing as you normally do.

You could make a list a mile long of how to make a girl that normally wouldnt like you like you, but thats only useful for getting a girl into bed. If you're going to click with the girl, doing anything on a "list" that you normally wouldnt think to do before a date is probably pointless.

true. it's all about paying attention to which type the girl is. if you force yourself to do something you wouldn't normally do would probably make yourself seem weird and turn things for the worse. what i mentioned are just what i'd do personally =)

but girls generally like to be pampered... so no harm in being a gentleman and dress up a bit (shows that you took the time and appreciate the date). as for being frugal... i think that applies to girls AND guys too... people in general will just think you're cheap.

 

[Eeezee]

WTF, I think purple shirt + blue pants looks great.

 

[Wags1974]

I have a few rules for the women I date.

1) no tramp stamp, yes thats the tattoo on the lower back
2) boy short panties dont go well with skirts stop doing that i wanna puke
3) stop wearing those frickin capri pants. they arent pants they arent shorts you got them for 40%discount because 40% of THE FRICKIN MATERIAL IS MISSING! make up your mind shorts, skirts or pants anything inbetween is way too confusing. Oh and I still pray each night that the "skort" never returns. It is as reprehensible to me as a mullet.
4) Low cut tank tops with tight colorful pushup bras tell me that you like to show the world your breasts. Thats great then stop complaining during dinner that that creepy guy is looking at you.

Too many to list.

 

[her209]

Originally posted by: Xstatic1
- when you're at a restaurant and the hostess is holding the menus and wants you two to follow him/her, let your date follow the hostess. that means you walk behind your date unless you are holding her hand and walking side-by-side to the table. same rule applies when you're leaving the table and restaurant...have the girl lead unless she's not quite sure how to make her way to the front door, at which case you either tell/motion her in that direction or hold her hand.

Awww.... I usually look at her and then scream at the top of my lungs, "LAST ONE TO SIT DOWN HAS TO PAY FOR DINNER!" and then make a mad dash for my seat.

 

[mrrman]

load of crap...nothing applies as you just go with the flow

 

[Gunslinger08]

Man am I glad I'm out of the dating loop. Women be crazy.

 

[Red Dawn]

Getting tips on dating from ATOT is always a good idea..Bwuahahahaha:roll:

 

[ghostman]

Originally posted by: her209

Originally posted by: Xstatic1
- when you're at a restaurant and the hostess is holding the menus and wants you two to follow him/her, let your date follow the hostess. that means you walk behind your date unless you are holding her hand and walking side-by-side to the table. same rule applies when you're leaving the table and restaurant...have the girl lead unless she's not quite sure how to make her way to the front door, at which case you either tell/motion her in that direction or hold her hand.

Awww.... I usually look at her and then scream at the top of my lungs, "LAST ONE TO SIT DOWN HAS TO PAY FOR DINNER!" and then make a mad dash for my seat.

Now THAT sounds like a fun date!

But I don't get this point. Why does it matter who leads? When you're leaving the restaurant, when the girl makes it to the door, am I supposed to then sprint ahead of her and open it for her? Similarly, when she reaches the table, do I then run in front of her to pull out her chair?

The Craigslist page seems to list the basics. The stuff here seems a tad petty.

 

[PingSpike]

Women always give horrible advice on what to do about women.