Guys...Would this bother you?

[LostHiWay]

Okay here's the situation. My girlfriend and I live about 30 miles apart, and she still lives with parents. we've been dating for a year almost. For the past couple weeks whenever I see her she acts fine...but the problem is I only see here once a week. By the way, I'm 24 she's 21

Take this week for example....she goes to night school 3 nights a week (weekdays)....I understand school comes first so I'm fine with it.

Friday comes...we both have the day off, she decides to go shopping with her mom and sister then when she comes home she doesn't feel like doing anything. I think, "well ok..all girls like to shop, she must have wore herself out"

Today (Saturday)...She's off all day, I work until 5pm. She decides she's going lay around and watch movies all day, then go out with friends at about 5:30 for the rest of the night.

I might see her sunday...but it's because we're going to a concert with my parents...then I have to take her straight home...because she has to be at work at 8am.

Now I don't think I'm a demanding person but I'd like to see my girlfriend at least a couple times a week, am I being unreasonable?

 

[ElFenix]

where it the YAGT?

if you don't like it your option is to dtb.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

No, it's not unreasonable to want to be with your significant other.

 

[Anubis]

no that wouldent bother me but nothing does

but no your not being unreasonable

 

[minendo]

Face it. She does not want to be with you anymore and she is trying to avoid seeing you.

 

[eigen]

YES,she either is cheating or wants to break up. Either way try to nail her as many times as possible before the breakup goes down.

 

[JustAnAverageGuy]

No, it would not bother me.

 

[LostHiWay]

Originally posted by: minendo
Face it. She does not want to be with you anymore and she is trying to avoid seeing you.

That my thinking

 

[TheBoyBlunder]

If this is the first time something like this has popped up, then no, it wouldn't bother me.

However, if this is well past the first time something like this has popped up, then yes, it would bother me a great deal.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: LostHiWay

Originally posted by: minendo
Face it. She does not want to be with you anymore and she is trying to avoid seeing you.

That my thinking

Don't avoid the issue. Part of a stable relationship is communication. Go to her with this, ask to have a serious and civil conversation and simply lay your cards on the table, flat out. Ask her right up front about it.

 

[Unkempt1]

I do not think that it is unreasonable at all to want to see her. You say it has only been a couple of weeks since she started doing this? Has she dropped any other hints about perhaps not wanting to be in a relationship any more?

 

[Linux23]

well, lemme see here. she would rather go out with her friends for the rest of the night instead of being with her man?

i'm gonna go with she is not feeling you anymore chuck. or she is going out with a friend who is a guy, who will be banging her like a kabookie drum all night.

 

[bradruth]

Originally posted by: LostHiWay

Originally posted by: minendo
Face it. She does not want to be with you anymore and she is trying to avoid seeing you.

That my thinking

Yeah, you should just ask her straight-out to find out for sure.

 

[LostHiWay]

Originally posted by: Unkempt1
I do not think that it is unreasonable at all to want to see her. You say it has only been a couple of weeks since she started doing this? Has she dropped any other hints about perhaps not wanting to be in a relationship any more?

It's weird...I'm just beginning to feel like "just another something" in her life. Something she could care less one way or the other.

 

[TonyG]

Just because she had to be at work at 8am doesn't mean she has to go straight home. I kept the girl I was with last night up until a little after 5:30 this morning and took her home, so she could get ready for work at 8 this morning.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

If you haven't been doing so previously, time to bust you fvcking ass to show her how much she means to you...

Either that or just let it go and watch your relationship dwindle to nothing.

 

[KarenMarie]

Originally posted by: TheBoyBlunder
If this is the first time something like this has popped up, then no, it wouldn't bother me.

However, if this is well past the first time something like this has popped up, then yes, it would bother me a great deal.

I agree! And I would ask her point blank what the deal is. What her facial expression, as words can say one thing while the face tells an entirely different story.

 

[MAME]

Originally posted by: minendo
Face it. She does not want to be with you anymore and she is trying to avoid seeing you.

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: FFMCobalt

Originally posted by: LostHiWay

Originally posted by: minendo
Face it. She does not want to be with you anymore and she is trying to avoid seeing you.

That my thinking

Don't avoid the issue. Part of a stable relationship is communication. Go to her with this, ask to have a serious and civil conversation and simply lay your cards on the table, flat out. Ask her right up front about it.

I agree. While this isn't sounding good, the situation could just be a phase she's going through. On the other hand, it could be the beginning of the end, and you will have no way of knowing unless you either talk to her, or wait for it to hit you like a freight train.

 

[Unkempt1]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie

Originally posted by: TheBoyBlunder
If this is the first time something like this has popped up, then no, it wouldn't bother me.

However, if this is well past the first time something like this has popped up, then yes, it would bother me a great deal.

I agree! And I would ask her point blank what the deal is. What her facial expression, as words can say one thing while the face tells an entirely different story.

Yes, just cut out all the BS and ask her directly. Hopefully she has just had other things on her mind, and has been busier than usual lately. However, if she does want out, it would be best to find out sooner, rather that later.

 

[nietsni3]

i dont see any reason to. i think she is still at the age of loving to hang out, playing wiht friend, having fun (like i do, cuz i am at the same age, so i know)... but that s nothign wrong at all. i mean she is not ready to get marriage yet. maybe she just takes the relationship not too serious, but you cant blame her at all because she is still young and need more time to enjoy life before starting to think seriously about building a family. just make it straight, you are 3 years older than her, which means you have had chance to enjoy that 3 years BEFORE her. i dont care if those 3 years were full of fun or miserable to you, but if you force her to start getting serious at the same time with you while your ages are not the same, you are trying to steal away 3 years of her life. u knwo what i am saying, like you force your child to study like there is no tomorrow in order to catch up with those who were 3 years older than him. there is no point doing that. i think you shoudl just let thing go on its course. thing will come when it should

 

[hevnsnt]

Originally posted by: eigen
YES,she either is cheating or wants to break up. Either way try to nail her as many times as possible before the breakup goes down.

Excellent advice!!!!!!

 

[Zorro]

Originally posted by: minendo
Face it. She does not want to be with you anymore and she is trying to avoid seeing you.

Werd

 

[KarenMarie]

Originally posted by: nietsni3
i dont see any reason to. i think she is still at the age of loving to hang out, playing wiht friend, having fun (like i do, cuz i am at the same age, so i know)... but that s nothign wrong at all. i mean she is not ready to get marriage yet. maybe she just takes the relationship not too serious, but you cant blame her at all because she is still young and need more time to enjoy life before starting to think seriously about building a family. just make it straight, you are 3 years older than her, which means you have had chance to enjoy that 3 years BEFORE her. i dont care if those 3 years were full of fun or miserable to you, but if you force her to start getting serious at the same time with you while your ages are not the same, you are trying to steal away 3 years of her life. u knwo what i am saying, like you force your child to study like there is no tomorrow in order to catch up with those who were 3 years older than him.

ummm.... not sure, but I don't think the OP is looking for marriage. I think he just wants to see his g/f more than once a week and doesn't want to feel like he is being put behind everything and everyone else.

 

[LostHiWay]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie

Originally posted by: nietsni3
i dont see any reason to. i think she is still at the age of loving to hang out, playing wiht friend, having fun (like i do, cuz i am at the same age, so i know)... but that s nothign wrong at all. i mean she is not ready to get marriage yet. maybe she just takes the relationship not too serious, but you cant blame her at all because she is still young and need more time to enjoy life before starting to think seriously about building a family. just make it straight, you are 3 years older than her, which means you have had chance to enjoy that 3 years BEFORE her. i dont care if those 3 years were full of fun or miserable to you, but if you force her to start getting serious at the same time with you while your ages are not the same, you are trying to steal away 3 years of her life. u knwo what i am saying, like you force your child to study like there is no tomorrow in order to catch up with those who were 3 years older than him.

ummm.... not sure, but I don't think the OP is looking for marriage. I think he just wants to see his g/f more than once a week and doesn't want to feel like he is being put behind everything and everyone else.

Yeah! No marriage!! I just want to see my girlfriend more than once a week like other normal people.