How to properly break up?

[aurareturn]

I think I got a pretty bad situation here.

First, I am in the middle of a break up between my girlfriend and I. I've been losing love for her and feel like we're both better off without each other. However, she feels completely different and thinks that I am the one she wants to be with forever and that she'll never find anyone like me again.

I feel like I am betraying her if I do break up with her. She seems to really really love me and I feel like I am just abandoning her and leaving her there. We've gone through a lot and been with each other for over a year. She's a really sweet girl and quiet girl. I feel like she really needs my help and protection at times and I don't know if I should continue be with her.

When I told her that I want to break up, she broke into tears and tried to make me stay. That made me feel bad... I know it'll hurt her a lot and for a long time but I have to do this. I told her that I will still care for her and I can be her friend but she doesn't think so.

Any of you lovers got any advice? This is a very tough situation for me and it's my first time going through it.

 

[FallenHero]

Tell her to truth and dont ever speak to her again. It will help you not feel as bad as well as speed up her recovery. She will be fine, life goes on.

 

[FoBoT]

text her

 

[olds]

Pics?

 

[mb]

Originally posted by: FoBoT
text her

"i dont like u ne more kthxbye"

 

[OrByte]

the proper way?

do it and don't look back.

seriously.

 

[Howard]

If she's not making you happy, dump her. End of story.

 

[xSauronx]

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
Pics?

seriously.

 

[FoBoT]

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
Pics?

and i felt bad for 2 seconds after my post :laugh:

 

[loup garou]

Dear baby:

Welcome to Dumpsville. Population: you.

 

[nageov3t]

Three important rules for breaking up
Don't put off breaking up when you know you want to
Prolonging the situation only makes it worse
Tell him honestly, simply, kindly, but firmly
Don't make a big production
Don't make up an elaborate story
This will help you avoid a big tear jerking scene
If you wanna date other people say so
Be prepared for the boy to feel hurt and rejected
Even if you've gone together for only a short time,
And haven't been too serious,
There's still a feeling of rejection
When someone says she preferres the company of others
To your exclusive company,
But if you're honest, and direct,
And avoid making a flowery emotional speech when you brake the news,
The boy will respect you for your frankness,
And honestly he'll apeciate the kind of straight foward manner
In which you told him your decision
Unless he's a real jerk or a cry baby you will remain friends

 

[GasX]

Say, "I break with thee. I break with thee. I break with thee."

Then throw dog poop on her shoes.

It is a time proven technique.

 

[aurareturn]

That's kind of messed up. I should probably just leave her and forget about it.

Should I still help her though? I mean like giving her some money when she really needs it?

 

[imported_cheapdude]

2 week notice, and a severance package.

 

[KarmaPolice]

The south park way:

"Everyone who is dating me please step forward"
*she steps forward*
"not so fast"

Straight forward way:
"Bitch get outta my house!"

the wus way:
text her on the phone

The right way:
just tell her and dont make it any more complicated then it is.

I vote the south park way.

 

[UberNeuman]

You could be blunt and tell her you don't love her and that it'll never be there - and she should find someone who feels love for her....

 

[sixone]

You must be a really good guy to feel this badly about it.

All you can do is tell her how it's going to be, and then stick to it. Make a clean break, cut off all contact for the time being. Maybe when she's had some time to cope, you can be friends again, but until then, you can't let her make you her crutch in life. It's like taking off a bandaid - you can either rip it off fast and get over it, or peel it off slowly.

 

[Minjin]

edit: too slow...

 

[RedArmy]

:camera:

 

[FoBoT]

Originally posted by: aurareturn

Should I still help her though? I mean like giving her some money when she really needs it?

no, tell her to get a job

you can mow her lawn when she is in europe for the summer, small things like that, but don't give her cash

 

[KarmaPolice]

Originally posted by: loki8481

Three important rules for breaking up
Don't put off breaking up when you know you want to
Prolonging the situation only makes it worse
Tell him honestly, simply, kindly, but firmly
Don't make a big production
Don't make up an elaborate story
This will help you avoid a big tear jerking scene
If you wanna date other people say so
Be prepared for the boy to feel hurt and rejected
Even if you've gone together for only a short time,
And haven't been too serious,
There's still a feeling of rejection
When someone says she preferres the company of others
To your exclusive company,
But if you're honest, and direct,
And avoid making a flowery emotional speech when you brake the news,
The boy will respect you for your frankness,
And honestly he'll apeciate the kind of straight foward manner
In which you told him your decision
Unless he's a real jerk or a cry baby you will remain friends

good song :thumbsup:

 

[aurareturn]

Originally posted by: UberNeuman
You could be blunt and tell her you don't love her and that it'll never be there - and she should find someone who feels love for her....

I do still love her somewhat but I hate being with her a lot of the times.

 

[Howard]

Originally posted by: aurareturn

Originally posted by: UberNeuman
You could be blunt and tell her you don't love her and that it'll never be there - and she should find someone who feels love for her....

I do still love her somewhat but I hate being with her a lot of the times.

You don't love her.

 

[sixone]

Originally posted by: aurareturn

Originally posted by: UberNeuman
You could be blunt and tell her you don't love her and that it'll never be there - and she should find someone who feels love for her....

I do still love her somewhat but I hate being with her a lot of the times.

That's not love. And if you're rescuing her all the time, you're not really helping her. She needs to learn to do that for herself, or she's going to enslaving herself to some man for her whole life.

 

[KMurphy]

Tell her you lost your job and don't have any more money, but would consider fathering her children.