Is my bf cheating?

[SuepaFly]

Well, we've been dating for about 5 months now. Everything has always been good between us. Part of his job description is working 14+ hours a day, so we usually only see eachother weekends and some weeknights. But about 5 of the 7 days/nights of the week I know exactly where he is and what he is doing.

But here's what makes me suspicious. The other night he invited me to go out with him and his friends but I didn't feel like it. So I told him to call me when he got home. He did and I went over to his place. He was, of course, completely drunk. Right as we're about to climb into bed he grabs his cell phone and starts going out the door. When I ask him what the heck he thinks he's doing, he says "I need to make a phone call. We were supposed to meet up with some people and they're probably waiting." Immediately I'm suspicious for two reasons, one he'd been home for like an hour now and just now decides to call? And two, he's never been bashful about talking to any of his friends in front of me.

So I put my foot down and tell him that its 3:30am and no one is waiting and make him to go to bed. But he already started dialing. But before he says anything, he hangs up and passes out. By this point I'm fairly annoyed and get up and leave. But not before I look at his cell phone (I know, I know) and the person he dials has a female name. Very interesting.

My question, whats the chances that this isn't exactly what it seems and maybe it was an innocent phone call. And what should I do?

 

[Crimzon]

One time event, and you're already suspicious? My advice. Let it go, and don't worry about it until something a little more convincing happens. Like him blatently lying to you. He got drunk with his buddies, and in his drunken stuper wanted to call someone. *shrugs*

 

[SuepaFly]

You wouldn't be offended/suspicious after you and your girlfriend do your thing and she gets up to leave the room and make a drunk phone call to some guy at 3:30 in the morning?

 

[yellowperil]

Sounds like a reasonable suspicion to me, but I would wait for something more dramatic to happen. When it does, make sure to post here (sorry)

 

[IGBT]

Never trust a drunk..they lie..gawd do they lie..to you and them selves..................

 

[bolido2000]

Valid suspicion, but you need more evidence.

 

[Shockwave]

I would say no, seeing as how he did invite you to begin with. So, why would he invite you if he had plans to go hook up wiht someone else.

Course, maybe he needed to call her to tell her not to come over, since you had shown up. Maybe its his ex, and he ran into her at the club. Oh yeah, thats it. Its his ex, and he wants to get back with her. Yeah, he's cheating. Definately. I'd leave him. Now in fact.

 

[Siddhartha]

Ask him if you and he are seeing other people. If he says yes. Start dating other people.

 

[Skyclad1uhm1]

Originally posted by: Dr Smooth
Ask him if you and he are seeing other people. If he says yes. Start dating other people.

Like he'd admit to it.

It wouldn't surprise me if he was cheating btw.

 

[Omegachi]

deal with it, love is pain. if you can't handle it already, then this is a problem. don't do anything yet, wait and see what else is suspicious. Then you should have a little talk with him.

 

[conjur]

He was drunk enough to where he just passed out and you're worried about him making a phone call in that state of inebriation?

 

[SuepaFly]

We established early on in the relationship that we were not going to see other people.

I'm thinking I might find a way to bring it up in conversation, but not in an accusing manner. Something along the lines of "Hey, can you believe this rain we've been getting? I feel cheated out of the nice weather we usually have. Speaking of cheating, are you?"

 

[conjur]

Not an accusing way at all.

 

[0roo0roo]

u have no idea what stupid sh*t he and his friends did while drunk. he might have remembered something they forgot to bury with the body

 

[SuepaFly]

Originally posted by: conjur
He was drunk enough to where he just passed out and you're worried about him making a phone call in that state of inebriation?

Because of his work schedule, even without alcohol, he's snoring in 3 minutes flat. And to be prescise, he hung up the phone, tucked the covers around me, then passed out.

 

[conjur]

He tucked you in...well...seriously....don't sweat it.

 

[manly]

Originally posted by: SuepaFly
We established early on in the relationship that we were not going to see other people.

I'm thinking I might find a way to bring it up in conversation, but not in an accusing manner. Something along the lines of "Hey, can you believe this rain we've been getting? I feel cheated out of the nice weather we usually have. Speaking of cheating, are you?"

LOL that's hilarious. Now half the geeks don't believe you're a girl with a bf, but some nerdboy having some laughs.

 

[SuepaFly]

Originally posted by: manly

Originally posted by: SuepaFly
We established early on in the relationship that we were not going to see other people.

I'm thinking I might find a way to bring it up in conversation, but not in an accusing manner. Something along the lines of "Hey, can you believe this rain we've been getting? I feel cheated out of the nice weather we usually have. Speaking of cheating, are you?"

LOL that's hilarious. Now half the geeks don't believe you're a girl with a bf, but some nerdboy having some laughs.

Hey! Girls have senses of humor too, you know! To prove I'm female, I'm willing to discuss the movie How To Lose a Guy in 10 Days. What self-respecting male would admit to having seen that movie? According to my bf, he'd rather cut off a...a...valuable member of his body than see that movie ever again. I'm guessing even nerdboys aren't willing to go without those.

 

[StageLeft]

Based on what you wrote without knowing anything else that points towards cheating I'd say he was drunk and stupid and that doesn't indicate cheating even by 1%.

 

[Crimzon]

*shrugs* When I'm drunk I tend to call people, no idea why. So I wouldn't be surprised if that's all he was doing. I agree with the folk who said if he originally invited you, but you said no, he wouldn't go call up someone to cheat on you with. I take it he was out with some friends, so he was probably enjoying a boy's night out. Needless to say, every time I go out with the boys, and their gf's accuse them of cheating on them just because they went out without them, that just ruffles my feathers. Sadly though, it happens every fvckin time, and it's getting really annoying, cause they usually accuse ME of starting it all.

 

[freegeeks]

I can only comment on the situation if I see some PICS from you

 

[Shockwave]

Originally posted by: SuepaFly

Originally posted by: manly

Originally posted by: SuepaFly
We established early on in the relationship that we were not going to see other people.

I'm thinking I might find a way to bring it up in conversation, but not in an accusing manner. Something along the lines of "Hey, can you believe this rain we've been getting? I feel cheated out of the nice weather we usually have. Speaking of cheating, are you?"

LOL that's hilarious. Now half the geeks don't believe you're a girl with a bf, but some nerdboy having some laughs.

Hey! Girls have senses of humor too, you know! To prove I'm female, I'm willing to discuss the movie How To Lose a Guy in 10 Days. What self-respecting male would admit to having seen that movie? According to my bf, he'd rather cut off a...a...valuable member of his body than see that movie ever again. I'm guessing even nerdboys aren't willing to go without those.

Depends WHAt part we're talkin about. In my case, the delivery vehicle? No. The manufacturing plants? Sure, you can have'm Both if you want. They dont work anyways.

 

[Sepen]

Originally posted by: SuepaFly
You wouldn't be offended/suspicious after you and your girlfriend do your thing and she gets up to leave the room and make a drunk phone call to some guy at 3:30 in the morning?

You had said as you were about to climb in to bed? Now you did it? If anything I would be suspicious of you.

Give the man a break, do you act abnormal when you are drunk?

 

[SuepaFly]

Originally posted by: Sepen

Originally posted by: SuepaFly
You wouldn't be offended/suspicious after you and your girlfriend do your thing and she gets up to leave the room and make a drunk phone call to some guy at 3:30 in the morning?

You had said as you were about to climb in to bed? Now you did it? If anything I would be suspicious of you.

Give the man a break, do you act abnormal when you are drunk?

If you're familiar with the whole thing, there is a cleanup process. I didn't think details of that would be all that necessary. And yes, I do some abnormal stuff when I'm drunk, but not everything I do is abnormal. What I'm trying to figure out is whether what he was doing was abnormal or normal (but kept a secret).

 

[dman]

Maybe he was drunk, and met this hot chick, and put her number in, and then got home and felt bad and wanted to call her to tell her he won't ever be calling her. Yeah. That's it -- 'That's the ticket'.

Still, I have to second the nerdboy posting for fun argument. Now, To prove us wrong we'll need a pic of you holding up something saying ATOT in it before any further advice will be given. Hah. J/K.

Anyway, hope it's all a silly mistake and everything works out. Seems a bit premature to me, but could go either way. Good luck to you both.