Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
Originally posted by: Krakerjak
She is a tad young for him.
Some people need to get used to the fact that the average american loses their virginity at the age of 16, and that people this age are becoming sexually active earlier and earlier. Obviously these young girls, considering their age, don't see the situation the same way as the 20+ year old here and don't limit their dating options to those within their age groups.
Not everywhere in the world it's not (and it might not be illegal everywhere in the US, either).
While I agree with you that it's wrong, yours and my personal feelings on the matter do NOT equal law, nor do they equal the cultural norm worldwide.
Interesting, but true. Probably the reason 3/4 of the people think its bad is because society (ours) has taught them to think that.
It's not that the girls are having sex at 16, 14 - or whatever - it's that the guys they're doing it with are 20, 22, or older. Can't these assholes get girls their own age, or do they have to stoop to
having sex with children. Yes, these are
children. I don't know any culture that would consider 14 a "fully privledged adult".
- M4H
This topic again.......
My big question is:
What if it was a 22 year old woman, and a 14 year old guy? (Technically boy, but I'll leave it as guy.)
Yes this is less likely to happen for 2 reasons:
1) For whatever reason (I am not about to claim I know why) women are generally attracted to older men, and men are generally attracted to younger women. Yes, there are exceptions to this.... But this is a generalization.
2) An older woman is much more likely to keep it quiet. And a young guy, as much as he would like to brag, is not about to give up his older woman's "experience" for a few props. And even if he does tell, his friends are less likely to "squeel" about it.
As for why it might happen on a mental level...... I do not know. But I can attest to the society of America. In general, and in my experience, it is really screwed up to be a teenager in America. If you can find a person a little older than teens to "latch" onto, it can make things a bit easier to handle. And when you do break out of the teens, you see all of the teenagers going through what you went through..... And it is easy to feel for them. Maybe even care for them. You might even convince yourself that you love them.
Most of the people I know, which is not alot by any standard, did not really mature mentally in their teen years. There was too much sensory overload. School, social morality, parental morality, just trying to seperate yourself from it all long enough to hear yourself think. It is not a great place to be.
That is why American college can be so screwed up. You are finally free enough to get your head straight..... And all the things you could not do, but wanted to try, are so readily available......
Most of us (me and the people I know) never really matured until we had at least tried all of the "naughty" stuff of the teenage years.
I say, as long as the older partner is good to the younger one, and does not try to presure the younger one into anything..... Who really cares?
The younger partner just might turn out to be a better person for it.
Who the hell are we to judge that particular relationship anyway?
Oh damn..... Did I just rant?