My wife left me tonight.

[dmcowen674]

Originally posted by: Pacfanweb
Sorry, but you need to go see a lawyer, pronto.

When woman says she wants some time to see if things will "work out", she really means that she's already done, but doesn't want to tell you just yet.

Hire a lawyer, and get mean if you have to. It will be best for you and your children.

In the meantime, get some counseling or talk your feelings out with a good friend. Take care of your grief that way, don't let the wife use it against you.

And believe me, she will.....simply because you don't believe that she will.

First sorry about what you are going through. I just lost my wife after 14 years.

The guys above pretty much covered everything.

Good luck.

 

[raanemaan]

Sorry to hear it. Hope things get better. Good luck.

 

[NFS4]

Originally posted by: Chompman

Originally posted by: mcveigh
She feels I'm not there for her and I spend too much time on the computer.

And yet you are posting here when you should be with her?

Smart man!!!

I was getting ready to post to "The Apprentice" thread when my GF peeked over my shoulder and said "Awwwwwwww, his wife is leaving him...Awwwwwwwwwww"

Sorry to hear it man. Best of luck to ya.

 

[Wahsapa]

whatever you do... don't talk to clint

 

[Narse]

Originally posted by: Gravity

Originally posted by: Ranger X
Does taking time off ever help couples? I think it would draw them further apart but that's just me.

Stay strong and don't let this stop you from living your life.

Research says 80% of those couples that physically seperate never get back together.

Good luck! Get off the computer and find a good family therapist. There's always tons more than one issue.

Yup my wife left came back and left for good. The odds are not on your side on this one but I hope it works our for ya. My wife left in January, was almost 3 years for us also.

 

[CraigRT]

Sorry to hear, that doesn't sound too fair!

good luck with everything man.

 

[Splork]

Man, sorry to hear that. I'll be praying for you. Good luck.

-sp

 

[mcveigh]

I just got off the phone with her. while she feels "dead" she says her saying we should take up to a year to work things out id her way of saying she still wants to try.

I'll lay it on the line here, most of this is my fault.
after we got married a few months later I quit the sleeplab I was working at to go full time with my business. money was very tight, I felt like we were making it and she did not that was when she got the second job cleaning (at one point she had 2 other cleaning jobs as well) th lasted about a year and a half, maybe more.finally about a year ago I started back at a different sleeplab.

The other main problem has been our house. We own a duplex and live in 1/2 while renting out the other. it's too small for us, and there are some big repairs that are needed., new roof, a lot of ceiling work from where a new air-handler was put in., bathroom needs redone. I hate living like this put it stresses her more. my goal is to wait till after the first of the year, get our 2004 taxes done which will show us in a much more favorable light to get a mortgage. then I want to sell this and get a home for us to live and grow in.

i'm not giving up. I told her I'm going to work harder than ever, I'm going full time at the sleep lab, I'll tell my business clients about my 2nd job when needed, (right now I try to act like I do computer stuff full time) if they don't like it i'll gladly refer them to someone else.

 

[Perknose]

So sorry to hear this, Seth. I still remeber your kind assistance while I was down there following my Dad's death. Stay strong, you are a good man.

 

[upsciLLion]

Originally posted by: spidey07
I'll keep ya in my prayers. Can you two see your pastor/preacher? These kinds of hardships happen and every relationship can be tough at times. I hope you two can get back on track.

I agree. If you two would consider marriage counseling, I would highly recommend it.

 

[Svnla]

Darn, sorry to hear that, best wishes to you, OP.

Sometimes I am glad that I am single, don't have to worry about this kind of stuff

 

[Turkish]

good luck man.

 

[mrrman]

Man sorry to hear about your situation...I went through the same hell...as for being apart for a year I would highly recommend counselling for both ASAP and if that fails then its over...being apart and doing nothing about the situation is even worse...the kids suffer and theres more stress on the situation...

 

[StageLeft]

Goodluck. I don't need to remind you that most of the time a separation turns into something longterm. It's just a way to ease into divorce. Keep that fact close to your heart, because if you're serious about the marriage now is the time to get serious about trying to make things work. It's easy to get into the duldrums and the same thing day after day, so you really need to make a real effort at permanent change - unless a separation really is for the best.

 

[Gooberlx2]

I may never get married. I actually know more and more people that are just doing the live-in thing. I know a guy whou's got a kid, a ring, house, everything....just no marriage certificate. Common-law will pronounce them soon....unless they choose to avoid it.

 

[lobadobadingdong]

I'd be looking for a job that would have me home more often. money doesn't buy happiness.

 

[oogabooga]

best of luck, hope things work out.

 

[Fritzo]

I went through this. We went to counciling and we found out she was too insecure about herself. She got some hobbies and friends, then all was good

 

[Gimli43Orcs]

Good Luck.
You have a whole life to make money. Set aside time for what really matters-family.

 

[MithShrike]

SFYD

 

[midnightrat]

Good luck man. Sounds like you might want to cut some hours on the comp biz and work on the building repairs. It's great that you have the ambition to work hard and be your own boss, but if it's costing you your wife and kids, it might be too high a price. Seems like she loves you very much, but is tired of not having a full time husband.

One thing I've learned in my misfortune's is that chicks need to feel stable, and if the house you live in needs repairs, and you're not around enough, they tend to feel as if their life is unstable.

my two bits.

 

[z0mb13]

whoa what an egoistiacal b!tch!

you broke ur back trying to provide for the family, and she left you because you are not there enough for her?

damn she should be grateful that you are trying to make things better for ur family..

 

[MadPeriot]

Sometimes it helps to sit down and revaluate what your priorities in life are. Theres no doubt that you are a hard worker, but look where it got you. If the goal is to grow your business and seek monetary satisfaction, then u just gotta make some sacrafices, and sadly this includes your wife/family. So I ask you what are your goals in life? Think about it. Hope I'm more of a help.. good luck.

 

[LtPage1]

youre in my equivalent of prayers. good luck. i hope you guys can work it out.

 

[T2T III]

I do hope things work out for you. With the issues brought out into the light, there are now things that can be worked on so you can have a better marriage going into the future.

Best of luck to you.