My wife left me tonight.

[AmericasTeam]

Without reading any post other than the first, let me just say.

You got what you deserved. You obviously are on the computer too much if you wrote :

"She feels I'm not there for her and I spend too much time on the computer."

Get a clue. Priorities bud , priorities.

 

[Sentinel]

Hey man, take care things will work themselves out as long as you are positive and have a plan.

 

[spunkz]

that sux that you can barely get by with like 4 jobs between the two of you. how many kids u got? sounds to me like you should ditch the duplex and get an apartment for awhile.

 

[dudeman007]

Originally posted by: Zim Hosein


Good luck mcveigh :beer:

Sorry to hear it

 

[mcveigh]

Thanks guys, Yes we have been counseling once before, I mentioned it tonight and she agreed we should go again.

Thanks Dave, nice to hear from you, haven't seen you around here much.

 

[frankierx]

Originally posted by: Slappy00
man what a downer...

My gf had a guy friend (i went to their reception) and they got married. Anyways they moved out to a farm somewhere and the guy worked as an EMT while she was going to law school. As soon as she finished school she diveorced him and went to live somewhere else.

The world has changed I guess... two generations ago divorce was frowned on now its just another speedbump in life I guess.

ahem* , how did she hook up with her guy friend and end the relationship with you?

 

[Apathetic]

Man... that sucks...

Dave

 

[Whitecloak]

 

[SunnyD]

Hmm... I want to post a reply, but nothing seems fitting. You know what you have to do, and you should be doing it rather than being on the boards. If it's about money and time, keep the highest paying job and work on a budget. If it's about the home, drop hours into working on it instead of trying to become rich. If it's about spending time as a family and a couple, both of you need to cut back the work schedule and actually spend time together. You may not be able to take her out to the fancy restraunts all the time, but I find Subway and a little browsing trip at the mall works wonders.

Thing is, you know what you need to do... so why aren't you doing it?

 

[Koing]

Originally posted by: z0mb13
whoa what an egoistiacal b!tch!

you broke ur back trying to provide for the family, and she left you because you are not there enough for her?

damn she should be grateful that you are trying to make things better for ur family..

Most women are like this. If your not around 'being' with them giving 'attention' they'll be p!ssed in the long run.

Well as for him being here and not with his wife well he is speaking to her. She just wants to be 'alone' or so at the moment. That is why he is here. He just wants some support. Not people telling him to be with her right now as she doesn't want him with her right now I think. If a person has said something to you generally don't do the opposite.

Well good luck OP and all the best. Hope it works out.

If worse comes to worse I would cut back on a job completely and spend that time with her instead. Money is no good if your wife and kids are gone .

Koing

 

[IHateMyJob2004]

Originally posted by: mcveigh
We've been married almost 3 years. she is living at her parents with the kids. She wants to take up to a year to try and see if things will improve. She feels I'm not there for her and I spend too much time on the computer. I work 2 jobs, 3 nights a week in a Sleep clinic, working with people with sleeping disorders and the other days I have my own computer business, usually on the road going to business locations. it's hard trying to balance everything.

For those that pray please pray for us. I still love her.:brokenheart:

Posts: 4897
Re-evaluate your life. The internet is not real and these are not your friends. Seriously, buy a book of something finctional and read it for the next week at home. Don't turn on the PC once (unless for e-mail or business purposes). You will be surprised how much better life is when you don't spend so much time at your PC.

When you are home, you are home with your family! Turn work off and enjoy it while you can.

 

[JetsFanatic]

Originally posted by: kermalou
praying won't help much in this situation, action is what is needed.

but this is coming from someone who is single, but one thing i have learned is nothing will happen with you sitting on your ass.

i fell sorry for the kids the most. they will be hurt the most.

faith without works in DEAD!
you gotta pray with your feet moving.
Tell her how you feel
ask her what she wants
marriage is not an easy thing
it is hard work, but always worth it

I have had a couple of rocky time is mine.
We worked thru it and just celebrated 10 years.

I will pray for you..But you gotta do some footwork.

 

[Kelemvor]

Originally posted by: mcveigh
We've been married almost 3 years. she is living at her parents with the kids. She wants to take up to a year to try and see if things will improve. She feels I'm not there for her and I spend too much time on the computer. I work 2 jobs, 3 nights a week in a Sleep clinic, working with people with sleeping disorders and the other days I have my own computer business, usually on the road going to business locations. it's hard trying to balance everything.

For those that pray please pray for us. I still love her.:brokenheart:

I would highly recommend you get a book called The Five Love Languages (http://search.barnesandnoble.c...=1881273156&itm=1) and read it. We just are finishing up a couples group where we read that book and discussed it. It really gives you insight on how your actions are perceived by your spouse and what you can do to improve your relationship.

And thsi book is not meant just for people having trouble, it's meant for anyone that wants a better relationship. There are also Love Language books for Teens, Kids, etc as well.

 

[dragonballgtz]

That sucks man.

:beer: for you on me.

 

[ragazzo]

good luck

 

[Darkstar757]

hey bud im sending one up for you man

best of luck with this

 

[Red]

Sorry to hear about that =( It is difficult to balance things in life. With close-to full time work and full time school, managing my club's website, a fiancee, our puppy, homework, etc... it's often difficult to find time to sit back, relax, and enjoy a lot of time with her. Here is a quote:

"Don't sacrifice your life to work and ideals. The most important
things in life are human relations. I found that out too late."
--Katharinde Susannah Prichard

 

[Beattie]

Originally posted by: mcveigh
We've been married almost 3 years. she is living at her parents with the kids. She wants to take up to a year to try and see if things will improve. She feels I'm not there for her and I spend too much time on the computer. I work 2 jobs, 3 nights a week in a Sleep clinic, working with people with sleeping disorders and the other days I have my own computer business, usually on the road going to business locations. it's hard trying to balance everything.

For those that pray please pray for us. I still love her.:brokenheart:

Wait...

You work 2 jobs, presumably many hours a day to support her and your kids and she doesnt think you give her enough attention?

Stupid selfish bitch.

 

[Czar]

not a clue if there has been anything else said in this thread apart from the first few threads


contact her parents, get them to babysit, and then just date your wife, take our out for dinner and whatever you didnt do while you were married

 

[Johnnie]

instead of sinking into despair I have a feeling of determination to get her back.

That is the attitude to have good luck!!

 

[Muadib]

I hate threads like this. Good luck man.

 

[Kelemvor]

Originally posted by: Beattie

Wait...

You work 2 jobs, presumably many hours a day to support her and your kids and she doesnt think you give her enough attention?

Stupid selfish bitch.

And people wonder why the divorce rate is so high...

 

[Ogg]

Originally posted by: djheater

Originally posted by: Zim Hosein


Good luck mcveigh :beer:

 

[OutHouse]

here is an idea. BOTH of you cut out the extra jobs and use that time to be with each other.

 

[mkahn5]

mcviegh,

take care and goodluck

im in the end part of a breakup its still very hard
ups and downs