sleeping together without sex

[AccruedExpenditure]

Dude, this is clearly your own fault... either you didn't lay the pipe, or you said or did something stupid afterwards, either way, find another girl... I mean yes, keep this one on the side for insurance, but don't pursue any sort of deeper relatiohship with her... come on now, she's giving you this "no sex" thing before you guys are even in a relationship... You think it's going to better afterward you're together...

Let me tell you, it won't.

 

[Kenazo]

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: Fritzo

Originally posted by: adlai
sleeping together without sex

The technical term for this is called "marriage"

man yall got some crappy marriages...
we were married for 10 years and were still doing it 3-4 times a day still!

man i cant imagine a sexless marriage.. im 34 and still want sex at least 3x a day..
maybe im just a sexaholic..

The bolded part I'm sure is true, the rest sounds like shens to me.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: shilala

Originally posted by: Nik
Many, many times.

Cuddlebitch.

I won't deny it. I am.

 

[Leper Messiah]

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: Fritzo

Originally posted by: adlai
sleeping together without sex

The technical term for this is called "marriage"

man yall got some crappy marriages...
we were married for 10 years and were still doing it 3-4 times a day still!

man i cant imagine a sexless marriage.. im 34 and still want sex at least 3x a day..
maybe im just a sexaholic..

The proper term for you and your SO is "nymphomaniac". You're lucky enough that you found someone who will put up with that.

 

[shilala]

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: shilala

Originally posted by: Nik
Many, many times.

Cuddlebitch.

I won't deny it. I am.

You poor, poor bastard.
Does your strategy ever yield benefits in the way of friction on the member?

 

[mi xiao]

Originally posted by: AccruedExpenditure
Dude, this is clearly your own fault... either you didn't lay the pipe, or you said or did something stupid afterwards, either way, find another girl... I mean yes, keep this one on the side for insurance, but don't pursue any sort of deeper relatiohship with her... come on now, she's giving you this "no sex" thing before you guys are even in a relationship... You think it's going to better afterward you're together...

Let me tell you, it won't.

no. she is clearly not interested in him.

any girl will want "the pipe" in a relationship or pre-relationship.
it is all part of a girl-insecurity thing (if he bags me, it means he wants me. wheee!)

and obviously he is not going to pursue anything "deep" with her if he kicked her to the curb for not fvking him.

walk away. far away.

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: adlai
So I was in this weird situation recently. I had a one night stand with a girl, and I tried to string that into a reasonable relationship. Then, after a week and 2 encounters, we're in bed together and about to get it on, and she says to me, "I don't want to get hurt again" (re: old boyfriend), turns around, and goes to sleep! I guess there was some sort of communication problem or something: it ended up we slept together w/o sex for about 3 weeks. then I broke it off because I just couldn't take it anymore, and she doesn't understand why.

Well in this situation she more than likely is trying to find out if you like her company outside sex. It's common, first time or near the first time out someone breaks and does something that they don't want to be the current basis of the relationship.

Even as an adult there are women that will do anywhere from just making out to everything but the intercourse part for a few to several dates (I usually do not stick around for these as much of the time I am dating to 'meat' people not for marriage....however, there have been an exceptional few I put up with it because they are offering much more).

In the long run, I am just honest. I will flat out state what I am looking for and expect. I let them compromise and I will still hang out with them if they want and I am available....chances are I am usually not that available.

 

[yllus]

I dunno why all these virgins and almost-virgins are coming down hard on you, but I think you totally did the right thing. She had better be the one if at the start of the relationship you're going to have to wait for multiple weeks to have sex after being in the same bed with her. That screams of long-term emotional issues that you really don't want to have to deal with.

 

[Sqube]

Originally posted by: yllus
I dunno why all these virgins and almost-virgins are coming down hard on you, but I think you totally did the right thing. She had better be the one if at the start of the relationship you're going to have to wait for multiple weeks to have sex after being in the same bed with her. That screams of long-term emotional issues that you really don't want to have to deal with.

We're coming down because he's a shallow prick. First of all, he was dumb enough to try to turn a one-night stand into a relationship. Then, when he's given a prime opportunity to talk about feelings and whatnot (Don't want to get hurt again? I'm not your ex, blah blah blah) he instead dumps her.

If he just wanted to fvck and run, that's all he should've done.

 

[EyeMWing]

Originally posted by: Safeway
Yes, I have slept with my girlfriend without sex.

You are just a horny idiot And a womanizer.

Official and confirmed.

 

[yllus]

Not hardly. It's not his duty as the next guy who comes along in her life to work with her and solve her problems. There's a million fish in the sea; if one looks sickly, throw it back. Better than spending a couple of months solving someone else's problems.

 

[Sqube]

Originally posted by: yllus
Not hardly. It's not his duty as the next guy who comes along in her life to work with her and solve her problems. There's a million fish in the sea; if one looks sickly, throw it back. Better than spending a couple of months solving someone else's problems.

I agree with that sentiment. My problem is that he apparently never even made a token effort to figure out what was going on. It's like he just said to himself: Alright, she's got 3 weeks to put out, and then I'm done. I got it the first night, which obviously means I'm supposed to get it whenever I want.

That might not necessarily be the case but, faced with the facts (such as they are), he demonstrates a level of callousness that makes me think he's a shallow prick. If he comes back and says he tried to talk to the girl but she wouldn't, that's a different story entirely. What happened is she stopped putting out because of emotional issues.

Crux of the matter: If he would've broke up with her because of the emotional issues, it wouldn't be a problem. He broke up because she didn't put out for him, and that makes him a prick. I should think most people would be able to agree with that.

 

[AccruedExpenditure]

Originally posted by: mi xiao

Originally posted by: AccruedExpenditure
Dude, this is clearly your own fault... either you didn't lay the pipe, or you said or did something stupid afterwards, either way, find another girl... I mean yes, keep this one on the side for insurance, but don't pursue any sort of deeper relatiohship with her... come on now, she's giving you this "no sex" thing before you guys are even in a relationship... You think it's going to better afterward you're together...

Let me tell you, it won't.

no. she is clearly not interested in him.

any girl will want "the pipe" in a relationship or pre-relationship.
it is all part of a girl-insecurity thing (if he bags me, it means he wants me. wheee!)

and obviously he is not going to pursue anything "deep" with her if he kicked her to the curb for not fvking him.

walk away. far away.

That's exactly what i meant to say... the insurance part means that he shouldn't have a confrontation with her, he should just gradually fall off the side of the planet... I mean she still hangs out with him (in the same bed, haha) meaning she enjoys his company (perhaps only platonically), by making himself scarce he can increase his novelity... who knows there could be a friday night 3-4 weeks down the road when she has nothing to do, flips her phone open, browses her phone book and gives this guy a call...

Bottom line, stop calling her, find some new prospects.

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: yllus
Not hardly. It's not his duty as the next guy who comes along in her life to work with her and solve her problems. There's a million fish in the sea; if one looks sickly, throw it back. Better than spending a couple of months solving someone else's problems.

exactly. If anyone mentions things about getting hurt again, or I am not sure if I still miss him/her, or I *don't* know what I want, I need time to think...move on...you can come back if they are ever ready.

 

[Gunslinger08]

Originally posted by: mi xiao
any girl will want "the pipe" in a relationship or pre-relationship.
it is all part of a girl-insecurity thing (if he bags me, it means he wants me. wheee!)

Date a conservative Christian and then tell me that again.

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: joshsquall

Originally posted by: mi xiao
any girl will want "the pipe" in a relationship or pre-relationship.
it is all part of a girl-insecurity thing (if he bags me, it means he wants me. wheee!)

Date a conservative Christian and then tell me that again.

Why the hell would anybody want to date a conservative Christian?

 

[LeiZaK]

Originally posted by: Pepsei

Originally posted by: PingSpike
You can't retract the sex after a precedent of sex has been established. That calls into question the reliability of all aspects of the relationship! Plus you don't get any sex.

Did she bother giving you any further explaination than "I don't want to get hurt again"?

ha ha you sound like Larry David writing for George Costanza. :thumbsup:

roflcopter

 

[CVSiN]

Originally posted by: L3p3rM355i4h

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: Fritzo

Originally posted by: adlai
sleeping together without sex

The technical term for this is called "marriage"

man yall got some crappy marriages...
we were married for 10 years and were still doing it 3-4 times a day still!

man i cant imagine a sexless marriage.. im 34 and still want sex at least 3x a day..
maybe im just a sexaholic..

The proper term for you and your SO is "nymphomaniac". You're lucky enough that you found someone who will put up with that.

No the proper term is 2 open minded people very much in love that love sex... and what it does for the human spirit...
you think women dont want sex? think again... women cheat just as much as men when they arnt getting satisfied...

the problem is most guys dont have a romantic or adventurous bone in thier body.. therefore turning off your wives/girlfriends to where she dont want to have sex with you..

when was the last time you did something like....

get home early and draw a full bubble bath cover the tub area with several dozen rozes and candles
have a surprise from Fredricks/Vickys for her...
have a gourmet dinner delieved or made...
and just knock her socks off literally when she walks in the door...

you want a night of unbeleiveable sex try something like that...

you want to keep that spark alive in a marriage do stuff like that...
I guarantee you will have no issues...

 

Originally posted by: Safeway
Yes, I have slept with my girlfriend without sex.

You are just a horny idiot And a womanizer.

Very true indeed! ROFLMAO!

 

[PingSpike]

Originally posted by: joshsquall

Originally posted by: mi xiao
any girl will want "the pipe" in a relationship or pre-relationship.
it is all part of a girl-insecurity thing (if he bags me, it means he wants me. wheee!)

Date a conservative Christian and then tell me that again.

No thanks, I like regular blowjobs and all but I want the whole package.

 

[CVSiN]

Originally posted by: PingSpike

Originally posted by: joshsquall

Originally posted by: mi xiao
any girl will want "the pipe" in a relationship or pre-relationship.
it is all part of a girl-insecurity thing (if he bags me, it means he wants me. wheee!)

Date a conservative Christian and then tell me that again.

No thanks, I like regular blowjobs and all but I want the whole package.

haha even then I know plenty of preachers daughters and other die hard religious girls that turned SUPER wild after realizing what they were missing...

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: shilala

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: shilala

Originally posted by: Nik
Many, many times.

Cuddlebitch.

I won't deny it. I am.

You poor, poor bastard.
Does your strategy ever yield benefits in the way of friction on the member?

Yes. Jeans hurt.

 

[randalee]

Originally posted by: CVSiN
im 34 and still want sex at least 3x a day..
maybe im just a sexaholic..

http://www.crimelibrary.com/serial_kill...artners/birnie/household_5.html?sect=5

This guy was, too.

And the Green-River killer as well,

http://www.crimelibrary.com/serial_kill...eenriver/threat_7.html?sect=2#continue

"His three ex-wives and several old girlfriends told the reporter that he was sexually insatiable, demanding sex several times a day."

 

[Fritzo]

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: Fritzo

Originally posted by: adlai
sleeping together without sex

The technical term for this is called "marriage"

man yall got some crappy marriages...
we were married for 10 years and were still doing it 3-4 times a day still!

man i cant imagine a sexless marriage.. im 34 and still want sex at least 3x a day..
maybe im just a sexaholic..

:Q 3-4 times...A DAY???!!!! Either this is shens or you have some kind of hormone imbalance. Wow....she must be bowlegged!

 

[Anubis]

Originally posted by: J0hnny

Originally posted by: Safeway
Yes, I have slept with my girlfriend without sex.

You are just a horny idiot And a womanizer.

How is he a womanizer when he slept with her w/o sex for almost 3 weeks! Every guy has needs and that woman didn't meet them.

Kick her to the curb where she belongs!

you are a moron, i was with my last GF for 6 months before we had sex, slept with each other alot before that with no sex as well