For me, I always thought that I have a fairly nice temper. When I was younger, I would cry or get mad when something that I dont like happened......even over small things. So I figured that as a child, I was a bit short tempered.
As I grew older, I learned to take everything easy. Be more easy going, and not be so serious. At that point, I thought that I was a very very calm and had no temper problem whatsoever.
These days, w/ friends, family, co-workers, I'm very good. Always able to smile, make jokes, and not afraid of a little bit of embarassment. Ofcourse, I think that those people also have no problem w/ me, so they never do anything to get me mad in the first place.
W/ my gf however, it's a bit of a problem. I'm 21 yrs old, and me and my gf had our share of differences. I think w/ her, My temper is coming back, and I really dont like it.
It's like, whenever we fight, she tries to tell me how she feels and why she is sad, but I always get mad. Whenever she expresses the way she feels to me, I always feel like I am being attacked, and that's when I start to yell at her. Maybe the way she says it....
For me, something that she does is question a lot of things, asking why why why, or maybe just tell me that I did this or that wrong, and I just feel a bit accused, and that is what gets me the most.
No, I"m not asking for relationship advice, or asking who is right or who is wrong. I think it comes to a point where that doesn't matter anymore. For me, I just want to ask you guys, when you feel that you are being attacked, or whatever; anything that can get you on fire, what do you mentally do to calm yourself down?
any tips?