Number two, get off your high horse. You stick your penis in someone, you are at risk. That simple.
Sure, if you are alive you are at risk of death. Some people will be attacked by sharks, some people will be struck by lightening, some people will be run-down by an errant MTA bus, some people will be in an airline crash, some people will have a tree crash through their roof, and some monogamous people who do not use IV drugs, have sex with neither IV drug users, prostitutes nor other men, will contract HIV. I'm not constantly looking over my shoulder, worrying about an errant MTA bus, how about you?
The term "risk" indicates a probability, a likelihood, your "odds" of some event happening. When you say, "everyone is at risk", no more meaningless statement has ever been uttered. Risk is not risk is not risk. When you see "risk", you should translate that to "odds", always. You know, like your "odds" of winning the Big Game Lotto Jackpot? Yeah, just like that.
So when your surgeon tells you that post-operative bleeding, infection, and death are the "risks" of your surgery, you should NOT interpret that to mean that your risk of death is the same as your risk of post-operative bleeding, since bleeding is a very common complication, while death is a very uncommon complication, of surgery.
You go on babbling something incoherent about "reality", well what do you think reality is all about? Odds, probabilities, and risks. Do you go around constantly looking over your shoulder, ever fearful that an errant MTA bus will jump the curve and run you down? Why not? Its happened to others, and it "could" happen to you, too. Do you hide under your bed, ever fearful of a 3-ton aircraft engine crashing through your roof? Why not? Its happened to others, and it "could" happen to you, too. "Everyone is at risk" of these things happening to them.
But I suspect you go about your business worrying very little about errant MTA busses and aircraft engines. Why? Because the "risk" of either ocurring, though "possible", is statistically insignificant. You've got more pressing things to spend your time and energy worrying about, like your cholesterol or driving too fast.
Similarly, the risk of contracting HIV by a monogamous heterosexual who does not use IV drugs, does not have sex with IV drug users, prostitutes, or homosexuals, though "possible", is also statistically insignificant.
THAT is the reality,
THAT is what the statistics show and this is not open to debate.
To each their own. I'm done responding to you, you have no respect for anyone who doesn't agree with you anyway, and I have better things to do with my time.
I have respect for anyone who disagrees with me intelligently, which thus far seems to be a challenge you're not up to.