So umm. Yeah, I'm black. I don't think it's right for you to presume to speak for my experiences having never walked in my shoes.
I once challenged some people on this board to change their avatar on their favorite online game to a black person for a month. Turn the chat on and see what type of interaction you get when people are in the comfort of their homes (i.e private thought). You would be surprised.
btw. Why not sit down and ask your sister in law her experiences? Show her this thread and see what she thinks.
Oh boy, you don't know some of the things I've had said to me over the internet simply because I am black.
I used to play CounterStrike a lot when I was younger. I'd come into the room and try to join in with a game and participate in the voice chat. When people suspected that I was not white, I was asked "hey, are you black?". Of course, I would answer truthfully and then would become subject to a barrage of insults and jokes about my race.
I've been asked before If I stole my computer, if I like fried chicken and watermelon, how many syllables are in my name, am I on welfare, how many baby daddies I have, etc. I've also been called the N-Word in an attempt to hurt my feelings.
I was talking to a player once about playing the Piano, he was talking about a piece he was working on and I started sharing about how I worked on that piece with my teacher the year before. Someone says to me "I didn't know black people had the mental capacity to play Piano!". The comment was prefaced with "Im not racist or anything..but,".
Its appalling, but it does not bother me at this point. I pretty much expect this type of behavior on the internet at this point. Its been 10 years since I started using the internet and gaming online (Im 22) and the behaviors towards me have not changed...just the usernames. Most of my experiences have been positive and I find most people don't really care what I am. There's just that handful of trolls in pretty much every community you come across.
I've even had contacts and mentors in the field I'm trying to get into tell me that I won't be taken seriously because 1) I'm a woman and even worse 2) I'm black. One mentor even told me that I wouldnt have to try hard since I would probably just be an affirmative action hire because there are no blacks in the business. I don't hold it against him, I guess he was just being honest. There is this assumption that because I'm black, I've had things handed to me and I haven't had to work for them. My life is the complete opposite.
My resume is more colorful than some of people in my classes. I've worked for everything I ever had, maybe twice as hard as some people..but nobody has had to look at me and say "just let her in, shes black". If I've ever applied for something, I made sure I was well qualified so as not to waste me time. Its a bunch of BS, really.