Very good insight. It's not the least bit condescending that someone who has no idea about African Americans nor will ever face Racism in their life is offering solutions as to what will and will not help.
Thanks Waggy. Greatly appreciated.
This thread makes me deeply sad.
I had a wonderful Princeton Professor friend that interviewed young people applying for his college that went out of his way to meet a family member of mine because he was so sick and tired of interviewing 4.0 Asians so many of whom were, according to him, profoundly narrow and shallow. In short, he was looking for imperfect people with character, liberals with depth even, which is want he was and doubtless what he saw in me, even though I am a nobody.
So what is this character thing. I think it's caring or empathy, a deep personal wish for goodness for others, a revulsion for competition and ego, a contempt for those who cause others to suffer.
And I think this all gets started by personally knowing pain, some kind of pain that a child can't turn off or repress, a deep will to recover and make the world right as rain. And I think one place you can get it is from parental love and kindness and parental horror if you don't show them yourself.
At any rate I can remember back in I think grade one there was a girl who was very uncoordinated and ran like a stork and the kids used to ridicule her, and I remember it made me sick. Why are so so so many kids so so so mean and grow up the same way.
Well the answer, though almost completely unknown, is that we were put down as children by being compared to others, by being told we're not as good as somebody else. And so we use others to build up our ego, we make somebody else feel inferior so we can feel better. We learned to hate ourselves, and in the case of racism dumped centuries of self contempt on black people.
But the only way a white person can know this is through understanding his or her own pain, by assuming that the pain on feels for being told you were inferior as a child is what black people feel. White people can't really know directly what black people experience. White people, because they will not know their own pain, will not appreciate the pain black people feel. White people will dismiss the pain of racism because they dismiss their own pain.
It's so very sad.
But the fact that white people can't know the pain they have cause to blacks and don't want to because they don't have the balls to feel bad, they have no problem condemning black people for sighs of the damage that has been done. Centuries of malicious contempt and slavery have created a population of folk who have less in the way of income, inheritance, family integrity, personal self esteem and countless other things. And now the contempt continues. We're going to run a 100m sprint but blacks will start 100m behind.
And it so so so so sad because nobody will see the answer because the problem is their own self hate and only so so few will ever feel it.