Unixfreak is right

[Tauren]

UnixFreak - I think your definition of 'friend' is a tad distorted. I agree that there will almost always be a degree of sexual tension where males and are concerned, but it is possible to be friends with a female and not have her want you to be her 'bitch'. as a matter of fact, I have seen the reverse of this situation quite alot. Women tend to be more blinded to being used and more forgiving. I've had 'f*ck-buddies':women who were friends, but I had sex with off and on and I've had plain old friends who I just went out to the bars with like one of the guys. If you missed out on that, well, I feel sorry for you.

 

[geno]

Tauren, he thinks that "friend" is someone who you failed at attempting to bone, but it's not like that all the time contrary to his beliefe. There's a very fine line between a boning buddy and a friend. Can you at least register that Unix Freak?

 

[UnixFreak]

<< There's a very fine line between a boning buddy and a friend. Can you at least register that Unix Freak? >>



I can register that, i just dont agree. My (correct?) opinion is that most male and female freindships are based on deception. The guy usually wants to bone the chick, and is looking for his chance, even if it seems far off, its always at the back of his mind, and the woman knows this, and she gives the little &quot;hints&quot; to keep him around, so she can get her fill of attention, favors, etc, so both parties, are decieving each other, disguised as &quot;freindship&quot;. And really, deep down, who wants a person of the opposite sex as a freind? We are so different. If sex were not involved (and dont say sex isnt important, its what makes the world go round) who would want to hang around someone who whines and complains,gets mad if you look at other chicks, and doesnt want you to be rude (being yourself) and gets upset when you fart around her? Likewise, what girl wants to hang around a guy who only cares about sports, cars, and computers, has no manners or etiquette, drools on other chicks, and farts around her? Its simple. I am not saying this is always the case, but most male/female freindships are based on deception.

 

[Urinal Mint]

I'll agree with that... and I'm glad you added the word &quot;most&quot; to that statement, because that is the only word making the entire diatribe true.

I'm fortunate, because I do have those girl friends who don't use sex as the basis of a relationship. We're just friends. We go out drinking, tell dirty jokes, talk bad about people we see, talk about the other people we date, and just have fun. I'm glad I have this, because apparently there are a lot of guys out there who do not.

 

[UnixFreak]

I have buddies I can hang out with. I dont need women to bring down the fun of being a guy.

&quot;thats rude, dont say that&quot;
&quot;god, stare at her a little more&quot;
&quot;thats gross&quot;
&quot;you are pissing me off&quot;

I dont hear this from my guy freinds.

 

[Doboji]

I totally disagree Unixfreak... MOST of my relationships with women that exist in a friends status, have no sexual pretense whatsoever. And the same is true for many many of my friends.

In fact if there's a sexual undertones... it weirds me out a little. I guess you could say women who are my friends... I have no sexual interest in.

-Max

 

[DannyLove]

<< I dont hear this from my guy freinds. >>


well duh!

danny~!

 

[Urinal Mint]

UF: A lot of girls, as friends, are just like you described... and that's what sucks about hanging out with them. Makes me even more glad to have girl friends that will go to strip clubs with me and buy me lap dances.

 

[UnixFreak]

<< MOST of my relationships with women that exist in a friends status, have no sexual pretense whatsoever >>




<< I guess you could say women who are my friends... I have no sexual interest in. >>




Either you are gay, or they are ugly, or you are lying, and you secretly want to bone them, and they know it. Why else would you hang out with them?

 

[Doboji]

<< Either you are gay, or they are ugly, or you are lying, and you secretly want to bone them, and they know it. Why else would you hang out with them? >>



Not everything is about sex... they're people.. not just walking p--sy. I hang out with them because they're interesting people... I like talking to them... I like hanging out with them. I mean why do you hang out with guys?... just to talk about girls?... maybe your life is that centered around women... mine isnt.

Furthermore there is an element of comraderie with a woman that you can't have with a guy friend. You can tell a woman emotional things... I feel sad... I feel depressed... without hearing:

&quot;quit whining&quot; or
&quot;drink up&quot;

-Max

 

[Tauren]

Friend:
1. a person whom one knows well and is fond of
2. an ally, supporter, or sympathizer

I can think of a few reasons to be frineds with women other than screwing them. The women I have as friends never scold me for being male. I do all the same things I do around my male friends; I belch, ogle women, swear, etc., and they know this and they are either comfortable or they walk. Plain and simple. Be yourself and if they don't like it, let'em walk.

 

[UnixFreak]

Double Post.. sorry.

 

[UnixFreak]

<< You can tell a woman emotional things... >>



I guess thats why we are not in the same boat. I put little value in emotions. I believe you should control your emotions, not let your emotions control you. Emotional decision making will always screw you in the end, IMO.



<< &quot;quit whining&quot; or
&quot;drink up&quot; >>



My exact response to you, if you came to cry on my shoulder. Why? Because, the end result is the same. When you are &quot;sad&quot;, you can either buck up and have fun, or sit around crying about it like a girl. The end result is the same, does talking about something change in any way the problem you are having? My puppy dies, I am sad. But talking with a girl wont bring him back. See my meaning? Your buddies are trying to help you, because in the end, there are things in life you cant change, no matter how much you cry about it, so have fun, life is short.




<< Be yourself and if they don't like it, let'em walk. >>

 

[Doboji]

ahhh I see our conversation taking on a new direction. The question here is whether talking about something that causes negative emotions can actually be beneficial. Maybe you've managed to block out emotions more than I have... and whether that is a good or bad thing is subject for much debate. I would say in some instances it can be a good thing and in others it can be a bad thing.

Example:

Sex is soooo much better when you feel lots of emotions for the person.

Furthermore talking about something that makes you sad can indeed help you cope with the sad emotion itself. Feeling support and sympathy is a nice feeling.

And indeed your lack of emotion would explain why your &quot;woman method&quot; is ok with you, and not with us. But I suspect that your subconscious is taking on the motherload of the emotions your conscious mind is avoiding.

-Max

 

[UnixFreak]

<< is ok with you, and not with us. >>



you say &quot;us&quot; as a collective group of people who dont approve of my methods. I think most of you would do what I am doing if you could. This same group will be visiting my site, and hopefully, learning a thing or two.

 

[UnixFreak]

<< is ok with you, and not with us. >>



you say &quot;us&quot; as a collective group of people who dont approve of my methods. I think most of you would do what I am doing if you could. This same group will be visiting my site, and hopefully, learning a thing or two.