Sorry for your neighbor troubles, OP, you and your wife seem like entirely reasonable people, albeit with "cantankerous and stubborn" kids including a daughter "in her 'independence' stage where she feels all rules are optional."
It's a shame your neighbors couldn't be more reasonable and understanding as well, but . . . their lawn, their rules . . . and their lives, which they are heartily entitled to endure.
Crappy situation, I feel for you and your daughter.
However, I feel I must honor the OT tradition of blindsiding the OP with unexpected criticism, by pointing out that you whiffed in your use of "exacerbated" as an adverb, which it is not. It is solely a transitive verb. You cannot feel or seem exacerbated.
Furthermore, in proper English usage, even in its sole use as a transitive verb, a person is never its object, i.e., a person is never exacerbated. Only the situation a person is in can be exacerbated.
In summation:
Sally was exacerbated by the situation. <---- Wrong.
Sally felt exacerbated by the situation. <---- Wrong.
The situation Sally was in was exacerbated by Perk, the tedious Grammar Nazi. <---- Correct-o-mundo!
Perk, your grammar fixation can be so exasperating!
Only a true friend tells you when you have spinach in your teeth.
A little bit of spinach there matters not one whit in the grander scheme of things, either, but, tell me, wouldn't you want to know?
Well?
According to you. One side of the story.When we spoke to the wife those were the exact incidents she mentioned. Essentially her stance was since your daughter has not followed our rules she is no longer welcome here.
Weird neighbors are weird. Fuck 'em.
Woo hoo I can't wait to have neighbors!
According to you. One side of the story.
1: he is respecting it, he has said it like 6 times
2: eh, its not all dead. I'll drink a beer with most of my neighbors(even if I dont like them that much) just to be civil. traded keys with my next door neighbors that we trust.
Here's an interesting consequence of the neighbor's rule.
The bus stop for our neighborhood is at the end of the the neighbors' driveway and every morning our children, the neighbor's oldest daughter, and 3 other kids wait for the bus. As they wait, they run around, play tag, etc. Well, thanks to the neighbors' banishment, our children have to stand there on the sidewalk while all the other kids run around and play on the neighbors' yard.
We're going to have another chat with the neighbors about this new rule and ask that they consider allowing our kids to run around on their driveway while waiting for the bus. It's really sad to see our two children stand there on the sidewalk excluded from all the fun the other kids are having.
i would.
but i would also wait a week. Make the kids understand because she can't fallow his rules there are consequences. Not being able to get on his lawn and play is one. maybe it will sink in.
At this point I would honestly just let my kids play. That comes with the territory of accepting your property as the bus stop. At least in my area, the school must ask you if it's okay to use your house as the stop, and you understand that there will be kids playing in front of your house, in your yard, etc. If they have a problem with it at that point, tell them to call the school and cry to someone else. I think you've been more than agreeable. Some hardasses just can't be reasoned with, so don't.
Sounds like a good consequence for your kids for not listening the first time the neighbors scolded them.
If they take a stance that they don't want our kids even on their driveway while waiting for the bus stop then I'll tell them I'm going to ask the school to move the bus stop to our driveway.
Sounds like you handled it alright. What can you do? You live next to dicks. Kids do kid stuff. Lawns are supposed to be ridden on with bikes, trees are meant to be climbed on, and AFAIC, the ground is a fine place for gum as long as it's outside of foot traffic. Your neighbors are unreasonable weirdos.
I don't agree with this. I wouldn't want kids riding their bikes on my lawn or spitting gum anywhere but a garbage can. Banning kids is pretty harsh though.
sounds like he is a guy that doesn't own any decent property.
There is a reason many places (like Disney) ban all chewing gum from being sold anywhere on premises.
If they take a stance that they don't want our kids even on their driveway while waiting for the bus stop then I'll tell them I'm going to ask the school to move the bus stop to our driveway.