were you bullied?

[Deleted member 4644]

No. I was the bully. I even had a gang.

 

[eakers]

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[ConstipatedVigilante]

I never really got beaten up or anything - my friends and I just got some snow-forts wrecked and some dick kept trying to trip me in middle school. The kids who wrecked our snow-forts ended up being nice guys in high school, and the guy who tried to trip me ended up being a total loser. All worked out.

 

[DarkWarrior2]

Yes. I was also harassed by pretty much the whole school at every school I went to because I was very short and very thin and I didn't fight back.

Quite a few times I was on the edge of just getting guns out of the closet and going to school and killing them. Quite a few... Luckily I had a little control.

Anywaaay... I have self-confidence and self-esteem issues from it, but whatever. Being called ugly all your life and called a bajillion different names doesn't really lead you to every thinking a woman would never want you because of it... or does it.


EDIT: Oh, and I am barely a survivor. I would have killed myself in 7th or 8th grade if I didn't pussy out when I had a pistol in my hand.

I've a similar experience to yours, TridenT. This kind of experience can definitely lead one down a very, very dark path. It's why I chose the name DarkWarrior2 when I first started using the net.

When I started elementary school, my mother always taught me to never fight back and to tell the teacher if anyone hit me or made fun of me. Yes, my mother was out of her mind.

I was pretty much hated by so many kids in elementary school - my only friends were the one or two other outcasts. I think I am still blocking out some memories from then - I recall being told that I was beat up a lot.

Some kids even threw pebbles at me when I was walking home from school with my mother. She didn't do anything. I was so filled with fear, hate, helplessness, and rage. It was then I think I learned the desire to end another human life. Somehow I came to the conclusion that killing the bullies would end my suffering.

Luckily, things gradually got better as I got older - the bullying didn't stop totally, but it wasn't as bad.

Then I started working out and teaching myself martial arts in junior high school.

Shortly after this, one bully actually apologized to me for what he had done. I was shocked. I was still very distrustful of him, however.

My self confidence/esteem is still not where I think it should be, but it's still much better that it was. I still have issues that I'm dealing with, but I'm also still improving myself.

It's not easy, but you can recover from torture by bullies. Never give up.

Also, once you get to a certain point with the self esteem/confidence issues, you'll probably remember that girls wanted you when you were young, and that women want you now. At least, that's how it was/is for me.

Good luck, man. :thumbsup:

 

[Blayze]

Had a weird Jr. High School (9th grade was there, not at the High School)... Anyway terrible year, and yes I was bullied that year. Also the only time I ever got suspended in school. I got a 1/2 day suspension because I fought back/defended myself. The other guy was out over a week... Most of those people never made it to our High School or the 10th grade either.

 

[meltdown75]

wow, some Columbine material in here.

Way to represent, TridentBoy.

 

[LittleNemoNES]

I used to make fun of a really tall fat kid in early middle school.

Fast forward to my senior year of High school: As part of a path for me to graduate (I'm intelligent but was a lousy student) I had to tutor other people who had difficulty with Math.

Guess who was the first guy? Luckily we had both grown some so the beating was pretty quick.

 

[DefDC]

Luckily, I've always been big enough not to be bullied other than by retards that terrorized the entire class. It's interesting now that I think back to the few instances of bullies and clique shitheads, most of them backed off once I stood up to them. The ones I blew off continued until I left high school.

Looks like the moral of the story is, nip it in the bud as it begins. Don't let it snowball.

 

[olds]

Not really. If people bullied me I punched them in the mouth and they picked on people that wouldn't stand up to them.

That's USUALLY the best way to deal with bullies.

...

I got my ass kicked the first time I did it. There were two of them and I had a friend there so I thought it was even. My friend didn't help.
After that, I never took any crap from anyone. I'd get right in their face and 90% of the time they backed down.
My last fight was a couple of years ago. Caught a neighbor trespassing and when I confronted him he got froggy. I was about 48 he was about 30. I kicked his ass and his wife called the cops.
The cops didn't do anything because the kid came to my place obviously looking for trouble.

 

[Kirby]

I got my ass kicked the first time I did it. There were two of them and I had a friend there so I thought it was even. My friend didn't help.
After that, I never took any crap from anyone. I'd get right in their face and 90% of the time they backed down.
My last fight was a couple of years ago. Caught a neighbor trespassing and when I confronted him he got froggy. I was about 48 he was about 30. I kicked his ass and his wife called the cops.
The cops didn't do anything because the kid came to my place obviously looking for trouble.

should have choke-fucked the wife

 

[Nik]

Every single day.

 

[mattpegher]

Yes. I was also harassed by pretty much the whole school at every school I went to because I was very short and very thin and I didn't fight back.

Quite a few times I was on the edge of just getting guns out of the closet and going to school and killing them. Quite a few... Luckily I had a little control.

Anywaaay... I have self-confidence and self-esteem issues from it, but whatever. Being called ugly all your life and called a bajillion different names doesn't really lead you to every thinking a woman would never want you because of it... or does it.


EDIT: Oh, and I am barely a survivor. I would have killed myself in 7th or 8th grade if I didn't pussy out when I had a pistol in my hand.

I am sorry that you had to endure this.

This is the kind of unfortunate mental abuse that outraged me so much as a youth. I was lucky to be big enough to protect most of my friends when I was arround, but this kind of crap shouldn't have to happen. It is our duty now as adults and parents to teach our children that this is unacceptable. Mostly that if they see this as the crime it is, that they will stand together or alert the adults.
The truth is that the parents of these bullies need to be aware and prevent these things from happening. And if they are unwilling to do so, they should have to suffer the consequences, ideally by getting their asses kicked but more likely through litigation.

 

[Muadib]

wow, some Columbine material in here.

Way to represent, TridentBoy.

At least he's honest, and can talk about it. It's those who don't or won't that lose it.

 

[Jeff7]

Yay, part of the club of TridenT and DarkWarrior2.

Let's see, factors contributing to my antagonism from 2nd through to 12th grade:
- Short. As an 8th grader, most 5th graders were still larger than me.
- Smart. Kids don't like smart kids.
- Mature, and respectful of teachers. This also doesn't sit well with other kids.
- Not terribly good with words, and not outgoing. If someone taunts you and you can't give a good comeback, there's not much to do.

My dad pushed the "just punch them in the face" approach. I didn't like this for some reasons:
- Hitting someone for verbal taunts seemed wrong, like an unwarranted escalation.
- Size difference. Since most people were considerably larger than me, that didn't really seem to be in my favor.
- Athletic ability and coordination. I had neither.

So I saw the inevitable result of fighting to be that I'd be beaten up quite easily, and then that'd add yet another thing for them to make fun of. No thanks.

My mom advocated diplomacy, and teacher assistance. Diplomacy fails when the other side has no interest in ending the conflict. And a teacher was useless as soon as his back was turned.

In short, it led to a feeling of complete helplessness, and of being trapped. The only thing that gave hope for an improvement in the situation was the knowledge that graduation lay ahead, in the distant future. But that doesn't give much comfort when you're trying to get through each day in 6th grade. Yes, it sucks.

At least he's honest, and can talk about it. It's those who don't or won't that lose it.

And it's talk about the past.
Are we going to start going after people because of things they thought about years ago, but never acted on?

In Calvin and Hobbes, I recall a few times where Calvin fantasized about utterly wiping the school from the face of the planet. Or teachers would be eaten by aliens. And it was funny in the process.
Now they'd probably feature Calvin getting arrested for conspiracy to commit terrorism.

 

[TwiceOver]

Yes. There were two main bullies in high school.

1 is now in prison for being a dick and the other drives around in his 1980's POS Ford spitting "chaw" and hanging around with his "doge".

The lesson I have learned is "Bullying turns you into a real winner!"

 

[Regs]

I Don't remember because I kind of blacked everything out about that time in my life.

 

[69Mach1]

I can't really say I was bullied, as I always fought back. But I had to prove I was willing to fight on a daily basis until junior high, and several times a year until I graduated high school. I was the biggest kid in the class all the way through, and I might as well have had a bullseye on my back. I was usually really easy going and always joking around. Lots of people seriously misjudged my Jekyll and Hyde factor, as when someone gives me too much crap or deliberately comes looking for a fight, I turn into Mr. Hyde pretty quick. I kept hoping everyone would learn to leave me alone but it never happened.

 

[MAKENITO]

Nope

 

[BoomerD]

I got my ass kicked the first time I did it. There were two of them and I had a friend there so I thought it was even. My friend didn't help.
After that, I never took any crap from anyone. I'd get right in their face and 90% of the time they backed down.
My last fight was a couple of years ago. Caught a neighbor trespassing and when I confronted him he got froggy. I was about 48 he was about 30. I kicked his ass and his wife called the cops.
The cops didn't do anything because the kid came to my place obviously looking for trouble.

Somewhere in my 20's, I hit a growth spurt and shot from 5-10 when I got married to about 6'1" and put on 100 pounds...(mixed muscle and fat)

Apparently, I now look intimidating. so I rarely get any crap from anyone.

When I was little, I was always willing to use an "equalizer" if I needed it. Didn't matter what, baseball bat, tire iron, car antenna, shovel, or firearm.

(and you MIGHT kick my ass now...but you gotta sleep motherfucker...and I'll find you)

When I was a scotch drinker, I managed to find fights all the time. That stuff turned my crank, and I'd pick a fight with a bulldozer...fortunately, a couple years of tai kwan do, a couple more with Sterling Peacock, (the baddest martial arts teacher I ever had) and USMC hand-to-hand training usually kept me from getting my ass handed to me...usually.

 

[PrinceofWands]

I'm not certain of this, but I think a LOT of the problems today are because the system is designed to prevent solutions. It's like that play/story about the town that behaves perfectly except one night a year when they rape and beat everyone. If you build a system that prevents you from dealing with problems, the problems build up until it feels like there's no hope and you explode.

I was SEVERELY bullied in elementary and middle school. I was fat, very intelligent, in all sorts of special programs and classes, etc. My friends were often 10 years older than me. This led to teasing, ostracizing, and even frequent attacks/beatings. I finally decided I'd had enough when a group of students beat me nearly unconscious near the end of 8th grade. I had actually been taking martial arts for years to try and control my weight, but never used it in any way in a fight. I'm not sure if I was too scared, or if it was my moral objections.

Regardless, I decided that night I was done taking crap. I dedicated myself to working out and by the time high school started I was in fairly good shape. Within a week of school starting one of my old bullies tried to pick on me, and I unleashed on him. I don't know who was more stunned; me, him, or the student body. I beat him quite badly, and with ease and grace. I instantly gained a reputation as someone not to be fucked with in any way. Even the jocks, punks, hoods gave me wide berth after that.

Now, if I did that today as a kid I'd be put in prison, expelled, or God knows what else. Kids have no way to actually resolve their issues. If you bring the school into it someone's gonna sue, and your family will suffer. Everything is tension...just ready to break if anyone makes waves.

More than that, when I was in school the parents and staff took it upon themselves to INFLICT discipline. If you stepped out of line when I was in school you got a hack (spanking with a big wooden paddle for those that don't know). It wasn't uncommon for a teacher to throw a kid against the wall and 'show him the error of his ways'. This wasn't done in a bullying function, but as a correction for improper attitudes or behaviors. You can be fairly certain that if you got physical discipline at school, it was nothing compared to what you'd get at home. One hack at school was a five minute ass-whooping at home with whatever utensils were nearby. Christ, parents would tag out when their arms got tired.

The result was, kids behaved, and bad behavior or attitudes were corrected. Of course there is none of this today, and so kids do not change their ways. They can get away with anything, and they're all power-tripping from it.

 

[JackBurton]

I've a similar experience to yours, TridenT. This kind of experience can definitely lead one down a very, very dark path. It's why I chose the name DarkWarrior2 when I first started using the net.

When I started elementary school, my mother always taught me to never fight back and to tell the teacher if anyone hit me or made fun of me. Yes, my mother was out of her mind.

I was pretty much hated by so many kids in elementary school - my only friends were the one or two other outcasts. I think I am still blocking out some memories from then - I recall being told that I was beat up a lot.

Some kids even threw pebbles at me when I was walking home from school with my mother. She didn't do anything. I was so filled with fear, hate, helplessness, and rage. It was then I think I learned the desire to end another human life. Somehow I came to the conclusion that killing the bullies would end my suffering.

Luckily, things gradually got better as I got older - the bullying didn't stop totally, but it wasn't as bad.

Then I started working out and teaching myself martial arts in junior high school.

Shortly after this, one bully actually apologized to me for what he had done. I was shocked. I was still very distrustful of him, however.

My self confidence/esteem is still not where I think it should be, but it's still much better that it was. I still have issues that I'm dealing with, but I'm also still improving myself.

It's not easy, but you can recover from torture by bullies. Never give up.

Also, once you get to a certain point with the self esteem/confidence issues, you'll probably remember that girls wanted you when you were young, and that women want you now. At least, that's how it was/is for me.

Good luck, man. :thumbsup:

These are some fucking awful stories and something NO ONE should endure. It really pains me that anyone could feel so helpless from being bullied that the only way out was committing suicide. I would love to have helped you guys out. Maybe I need to start up a company called, "Destroy a Bully." I really don't care what age, from elementary school to high school, the problem will be taken care of. And if the "root cause, " better known as the "parent," wants some, I think that can be taken care of too. Free of charge of course.