When is it enough? :(

[MaxDepth]

it's the holidays.

break-ups during this time are tough.


make plans with friends for a new year's eve party.
get drunk and kiss whomever you want at 12 o'clock! (and it doesn't have to be just one, either )

 

[lilFajita]

thanks for the hug Grasshopper. There are not enough huggers in the world. I need a non-virtual one!

M4H/Hoober...I would love to get a dog. They do bring brightness into your life. Considering that I live in other people's house, though, it looks unlikely (until they go for it!)...maybe I can encourage them...

MaxDepth- It is hard right now (tho, its always hard....I don't want to relapse, but its frustrating how that stupid thought of "oh, this would be sooo great with X." taints everything My birthday just passed and it was horrid) He will be around soon, and that will make it really strange, since I know he will call and what not.

The break-up is super suck, but I just think that I can't be so depressed over just that. That's why I'm concerned. But maybe I'm wrong, maybe people do get this way over a love... who knows!?!

 

[Evadman]

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire

Originally posted by: huey1124

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
Find a puppy. There is no antidepressant like a happy dog.

- M4H

really? what's the recipe?

[*]Pet repeatedly
[*]Watch tail wag
[*]Enjoy face licking
[*]Sic it on huey1124 for being such a sick bastard
[*]Enjoy the carnage

- M4H

 

[DanTMWTMP]

no worries..this is very normal.....ur only getting stronger and wiser ...this happens to guys as well.......me one of em...aha....

well, time will heal you and you'll feel better! such as life eh?

good luck dude!

 

[MWink]

Additionally, I have had some friends that kind of dropped me, and it's really sent my mind whirling.

The problem is though, that I've lost all my drive to be happy. I've always been boy crazy, so when my heart use to get broken, I'd go cheer myself up with a new purchase, go out and meet new people, go dancing, etc. etc. etc....I could always find a way to distract myself, and soon, I'd been on way to being better.

This time, though, nothing seems to work. Just thinking of doing anything or seeing anyone just tires me out, and I've been like this for months. Sometimes, I just get so depressed that I almost get scared. I can't remember the last time that I was just purely happy- its not that I don't have a good time and smile...but that the entire time, I'm really just amazed that I'm not sad. Does that make sense?

I'm really wondering if this is serious. If you have ever been in love and it fell apart, is this normal? How did you get better? I have always been emotional, but this time is much much worse that I can remember.

Let me first say, I think I have a pretty good idea of how you feel. IMO, it really sounds like you may be depressed and possibly need professional help. You described quite a few of the symptoms of depression. You can do a little reading about it Here. Do NOT think of yourself as a weak person. People with depression tend to think of themselves as weak (and yes sometimes others think they are weak too) but IMHO, you have to be pretty strong to live with those feelings. I don't know if you are seriously depressed or not but it sounds like you could be. I hope you get some help. PM me if you want to talk (or want more info).

 

[Grasshopper27]

This thread is one reason why I like ATOT so much...

There are some of the nicest people around here, you're all eager to jump in and help someone in need...

*big group hug*

Grasshopper

 

[lilFajita]

MWink- I read the symptoms. I think I have enough to at least check it out with a doc. Who knows...

Grasshopper, you are so right. I was a little scared to put this out there, but I appreciate everyone's help. As cheesy as it is, AT is a light in my small life . I really do love you guys!

Thanks to everyone for your thoughts and your offers of help. I know I will have questions so...thanks in advance

 

[dirtboy]

To answer your question about how long it will take to get over him, it depends on so many thing, like you, how deeply you two were involved, how long you were together, etc. Everyone takes a different amount of time, some very short, others very long. You just have to let time work its magic.