Years ago I worked for a company that had paid maternity live and extremely generous benefits for people with kids.
They gave something like 15 extra sick days per year for EACH kid, and your vacation times reflected the number of kids, something like 3 extra days of vacation per child.
It was disgusting how many parents clearly abused these policies.
So many lazy people taking random sick days, there was one guy with literally 10 kids and someone discovered he only had to work something like 4 months out of the year. He would come in a couple days a week and that's it.
Seeing people hugely abuse these policies is what makes me so against them. I honestly don't even think women should get paid maternity leave, or that the state should require private companies to 'hold' their jobs.
The result of all this is women tend to look toxic for many critical positions.
It's very risky to hire someone who goes through drastic hormone changes for 9 months before leaving for 3 months.
Why are you such an obtuse, narrow-minded person? Is it your upbringing, something that was inculcated in your malleable mind as you grew up?
Moreover, why are you deliberately muddying the waters? OK, so let's say you really saw one person with 10 children abusing the system. If you had taken any introduction to statistics course,
at any time in your life, you'd know that you cannot establish rules based on exceptions (aka "outliers"). Let's face it, the number of people with more than five children is increasingly smaller in this day and age - even in militant anti-contraception societies like yours.
Not to mention the other implications of your myopic statements. "I honestly don't even think women should get paid maternity leave" - really? You think having kids and raising them in their first year of life is something easy or simple? You think that not having any resources of your own, during this time, will be beneficial for your state of mind and the child's life? Especially since your popular culture also discourages having extended, multi-generational families living under the same roof (which would allow grandparents to raise kids, if both parents have to go to work)?
I must admit that sometimes I feel that
some people in the U.S. might as well be aliens... there's so much selfishness and disdain for basic human rights, and so little solidarity, it makes me shudder. I don't think I've seen so much excessive individualism in any other culture I came in contact with.