So if I walked up to you and put a gun to your head and said that I'm going to kill you, you wouldn't think for a moment that I condone murder?
If I offered my daughter up to a crowd to be raped, you'd assume I was just joking?
my head asplode
Lot DID offer his daughter to be raped. What kind of holy man is that? God saved Lot and his family because they were holy, yet allowed Lot to offer his daughter for rape (because that's not a sin apparently), but punished Lot's wife for something as petty as looking back at the city's destruction (which isn't a sin) by turning her into a pillar of salt...
DEATH for looking over your shoulder, but holy praise for a man who does things as disgustingly vile as offering his daughter up to be raped by a crowd of men.
...does not compute.
I think you're taking it out of context, do you remember the circumstances that prompted Lot to 'offer his daughter to the mob'? The mob was going to rape the beautiful men who had come to visit him, which is an even more despicable act of not only forced rape but homosexuality - at least in light of scripture - but NEITHER ARE OK and I do not believe Lot condoned either by his words here since he did not want to do what he said. Lot simply had compassion for the men who visited him, at the time visitors were meant to be under the person's care, and probably didn't want anyone to be raped at all. It was then in an effort to safeguard their well-being (and an action made under duress to prevent the situation from escalating) that he offered his daughter.
That he offered his daughter instead of them taking the visiting men, whom he did not know, shows that he cared greatly even for a stranger! Historically at the time, it was a very big deal and important as a societal norm to care for the safety of any travelers/visitors and to provide for them while they were in your care - you were in a sense responsible for them. This also shows how far the city was from what was even expected as just normal at the time. How many of us could say that we would do the same for someone we did not know? Nowadays hardly anyone seems to care for strangers.
Yes, it would have been much better if Lot just refused their requests altogether and told them all to go away! (The visiting men/angels could have saved him without incident, but he didn't know that) He was likely very afraid that they would then turn violent against everyone there, and therefore put more peoples' lives and well-being in danger, and so his offense is much lessened. Not to mention that the mob did not take his daughter.
Your scenario of you putting a gun to my head and pulling the trigger meaning you condone murder would depend on similar circumstances. Killing a person in cold blood is certainly bad, either way, but someone being forced under another threat to do so would likely have the penalty lessened by most juries as acting under duress. The two are not the same thing, and while you would likely condone murder if you killed anyone in cold blood, intentionally, you cannot necessarily say you condone murder if you killed (or just threatened, as in Lot's case, since no action was actually taken) someone under another threat to yourself, family member, or a friend. Of course, only yourself and God would know your heart and true feelings of the action - and that is why God is the more perfect judge.
But these are generally different scenarios than the Lot situation - you tend to take things entirely out of context. Please take a moment and refresh your memory of the incident in scripture and you'll see clearly that he was under duress and did not necessarily condone rape at all:
http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Genesis+19 It seems like unfounded slander against his character to suggest otherwise. You seem like you tend to approach anything to do with scripture with such a vile mind and hard heart that you don't give it any chance to take the time to think on it and why it is that way. You could learn a lot if you did that, I suspect.